Is it normal that your parents loves your sister much more than you?

When I was at the age of 13, I have noticed that my parents are always so sweet when they are talking to my sister. When they're talking to me, their voice is always in an angry tone. I did my best at school just so they would be proud of me, I admit that I have been lazy with chores but I changed that and yet my mother told me that she'd prefer a daughter with a personality better than mine. My sister has always been the favorite of EVERYONE in my family. Even my uncles, aunts and cousins. Whenever we argue, they would all be on her side which leaves me alone. I also remember that one time when I was complaining about back pain and my mother told me she would bring me to the doctor, yet she never did. Then my sister complained about her ears and immediately she set up an appointment with the doctor. I always feel judged by my family, I needed to do my best in school yet they didn't really recognize any of my hard work. They would just tell me they're proud of me but never really does show me they are. When it comes to praising, I rarely get one. When I do good they never really notice it, when my sister does they would praise her endlessly. They would smile so big like she did some kind of heroic act when actually what she did was to wash the dishes or just wash 2 pieces of clothes. They would always scold me for just a simple mistake and talk soft when my sister does. I would shake or get nervous when I enter the room of my parents, It's as if I am so scared of them. I never really felt loved by them, I only feel like I am a robot they can control to do everything they want and when I don't they scold me and get disappointed.

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  • alv1592

    Unfair favoritism is the worst, especially among family. Your parents brought you both into this world so they should love you equally. Have you told your parents you feel left out?

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  • grumpy_fish

    I hope you were able to move out. Also I hope you have or will find a loving partner so you know what it's like to be respected and loved properly.
    My boyfriend had a similar childhood. He is over 30 now and very happy to be with me and really appreciates how nice I am to him.

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  • Ellenna

    I hope you can get out of this shitty situation as soon as possible and find people who will respect you and treat you well. You deserve a lot better than this fucked up family.

    Get out and get some therapy to deal with the pain their unfair treatment will have caused you.

    I don't know if this is relevant but my parents always favoured my younger sister and once when I tackled my mother about it as a teenager she said I was the wanted one and my sister was a mistake. Although she didn't say so, I thought later that maybe they treated her better to make up for not having wanted her, but it still wasn't fair the way they treated me. A lot of it was sort of minor but hurtful to a child: for example, if I wanted something a lot, like a cat, they'd say no, with lots of reasons why not, but then get her one when she hadn't even asked for it & didn't particularly want it - crazy stuff.

    The only advantage I gained from it was an over developed sense of injustice both against me and others, so I often go into bat for the underdog, including on this site. because I can spot unfairness a mile off.

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  • merpderpherp

    You poor girl :( I know how you feel, inbox me if you want to talk xx

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    • sisterlover

      inbox me too. tell me all your nasty family secretds

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  • sisterlover

    My dad loves my sister. I mean loves my sister. They shower together and sleep in the same bed. She is so creamy down there. Anyways I get so horny hearing them have sex together. Oh god why can't she touch me that way. I am 32 and she is 38

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