Is it normal that women use and abuse good men

not normal but it happens too much

You have no job and are still a virgin at 25.

Is it normal? Meh, I don't know. Depends on what you thinks it takes for something to be normal. Does it happen more than it should? Yeah. Most of the girls I've known have either cheated on their partners who were sweet, have history of cheating on their exes whom I know that are good, or they've broken up with their good guy's and went with some scummy douche. I wish I was exaggerating when I said most girls I've known, even female friends, have done this to their guys at some point.

But who knows. Watching it happen around me to the guys I know made me a bit wary of relationships.

Both men and women abuse each other.

It's not that they abuse good people, abusers abuse anyone who allows it. You're not considered a "good man" for letting a woman use and control you, you're just a fool for letting her.

You just need to date smarter and learn to avoid abusers. Don't rely on, "I'm a good person, they should treat me nicely!" Abusers don't work like that, and it'll hurt you more if keep thinking this way.

Well, you can´t really abuse someone who wont allow it. Men and women need to grow some balls and stop allowing abuse.

You have no job and are still a virgin at 25.

Fuck yeah

It's funny how much BUT was used for a straight yes or no question. Everything in relative depending on which side of the fence you live or sympathize the most with. No it's NOT normal.

No. It's not normal for men to do that either.

The opposite is true as well. Men and women who tolerate abuse tend to be codependent and come from a dysfunctional family of origin where they witnessed and we're often times the victims of abuse and neglect.

This stuff doesn't just up and happen one day out of the blue it's part of a lifelong pattern. I've had my trials and tribulations as well as mental health issues, but thankfully this particular one hasn't been one of them. I know I say this all the time but if you, OP, or anyone else reading this are/is being treated badly then I would highly recommend seeing a qualified therapist and attending Codependents Anonymous or Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families meetings.

http://coda.org/
http://www.adultchildren.org/