Is it normal that when my crush talks to others?

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Is it normal that when my crushes talk to others (male or female) I get really upset & pissed off? So I have a crush on a guy who's a year younger than me and I think he knows I like him cuz I blush when he talk to me. Anyway, today was a mess. He was talking & staring at every other female in the building! Everyone but me!! He used to be soo nice & caring about me but now it's like he don't give a f! It hurts me when he says "hi" to everyone else except me. I know I'm young and don't really need a serious relationship right now but it would be good if a guy liked me. So is it normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    So you are saying you are jealous of some guy who you don't even have a friendship with?
    Girl, you'd better get a grip on your emotions, or you won't ever have a guy for more than ten minutes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yes, it's relatively normal to be jealous of other people when he's paying attention to them, and not noticing you, but you're gonna have to get over it, gurly. He's just not that into you, and though it may be sad for you, it's okay for him to have his own feelings, and not return your affections. Now dust yourself off, cause don't nobody like that damn, green eyed monster!

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  • freshbig9
    9 years ago

    Totally normal feelings. I imagine most people know what it's like to long for the attention of someone who isn't giving it. ESPECIALLY when they aren't giving it - the science of 'no'. (the brain reacts 5 times more powerfully to a 'no' than a 'yes.')

    What might help is knowing what you can do with those feelings. You know what feels best for you, but two directions come to mind. You could do one, the other, or both.

    One would be distancing yourself from him and focusing on yourself. If you're doing things you like, that make you happy, you'll feel better about yourself and it won't matter what he thinks. Focus on the things / people that ARE working for you. Lots of joy to be found there. Focusing on things that aren't working is just going to make you miserable.

    The other thing would be, from a place of the above, you might decide to be proactive with him - place yourself around him, if it's comfortable. Initiate conversation, whatever - the key is not trying to scheme something you think 'should' work but doing / saying stuff you like. People being real is attractive and who knows, he may have a change of heart. Maybe not. Again, you really have to make yourself the #1 priority and spend your time and energy on that. If he or anyone else is into that, then great, you might have something.

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