Is it normal that whatever i do for her is never good enough?

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For as long as I can remember I've had a rocky relationship with my parents. And in the past year it's been getting steadily worse. I'm at the moment studying in my last year of A levels and there's never been a problem, in my opinion as to the amount of work I put In on my courses. I'm not an A* student though, and never will be, and I have to work extremely hard just to get by, much harder than anybody I'm aware of. However my parents don't see it this way, after busting a gut working last year I got a D in two of my subjects (maths and physics, so pretty difficult ones mind) and was disapointed after all the work I've put in. My parents then jumped on me, telling me how was such a dissapointment rhey're ashamed to call me part of the family. They've continued this kind of conversation with me nearly every day since. Even telling me how my dreams of a career in architecture are stupid, and I never put any effort In, this is while I ended up getting myself ill from doing college work for just under 3 days straight. When I'm working, they complain because I never spend time with them as a family (can you blame me?) and when I spend time with them they complain about how I should be working.

And even as I'm writing this my mum is downstairs shouting at me for being such a dissapointment.

Please help?
Is this normal?

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Based on 44 votes (17 yes)
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Comments ( 8 )
  • Xfing
    9 years ago

    Know what? Fuck such parents, 'nuff said.

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  • mprocida
    13 years ago

    My philosophy is if we in the states elected Bush jr. twice to presidency you could be in parliament

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  • SwimBikeRun
    13 years ago

    It sounds like you know that you have potential and you are a self-drivin hard worker. I know it's hard but try to ignore your parents. Their attitudes will only bring you down. Keep working hard and when you have a successful career you can say,"told you so."

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Your many problem is that all your study efforts aren't returning the marks you would like. And since your goals include further education, get that straightened out. Talk to a prof about study habits. You need to work smarter, not harder.

    About your parents ragging on you - well - maybe they are worried. But do sit down and talk to them about how this feels. That it hurts you, is discouraging and what you need is their help and support.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      *main problem

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  • WAFFLESQUID
    14 years ago

    Ask your teachers to get extra help, I think some might agree to help you after school or before. Just ignore your parents, if they say you never spend time with them be like "WELL YOU WANTED ME TO WORK, AND THAT'S WHAT I'M DOING!". Okay, maybe not like that, but you get the point.

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    14 years ago

    How hard could you have tried if you got a D?

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  • jmducky
    14 years ago

    Sounds like you have a learning disability and that is commmon. There are some tests you can take to find out what you are weak in and then the school ( in the states ) HAVE to help you in those areas. Hang in there and try not to let your parents wear you down you sound like you are a good person trying your best some extra help would be wonderful for you it seems

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