Is it normal that we can't let go of each other? help

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Me and ex boyfriend have been broken up for 3 months now. We were together close to 3 years but I left him due to lies, cheating, and No appreciation. It has been 3 months and we both still have lingering feelings towards each other and keep in contact sometimes KNOWING WE SHOULDN'T we both say we try to keep our distance but can't seem to. Is this normal?! Whenever we talk he ends up angry at me for No reason. Is it because I left? He starts conversation with me then becomes short and an asshole eventually calling me names and getting upset. I don't understand Why we still love each other or Why he is so angry it wouldn't be easier if he wasn't

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He says he hates you to mask missing you 6
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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I wouldn't call it love, but I would call it a sick sort of codependency. Since you both know better, and are aware you shouldn't even be communicating, what exactly do you want from us?
    Some of us could say,"You love each other, so you should be together, because love is EVERYTHING." but you know that's just bull shit. Or some could say, "Stay away, he's no good for you." but you know that already. So, again what do you want from us?

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    • overlost
      9 years ago

      That I am not crazy or the only person to experience this

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I don't know about the crazy part but way too many can't break away from an ex and it interferes with their ability to move on and find someone new.

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  • DormantExpression
    9 years ago

    Ignoring someone you have feelings for is a difficult endeavor. But if you're not finding any enjoyment from the conversation and it remains toxic, it's best to get help. No professional help, just a friend you trust that you can confide in whenever he makes contact. Someone to take the phone away from you or encourage you to continue ignoring him. After some time his advances and comments won't seem enticing and you'll move on.
    Be forewarned if he becomes overly aggressive and stalker-ish it can be a red flag.

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