Is it normal that this situation seems wrong to me..?

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OK so heres' a situation: there's a person who sleeps next to their dad (at the age of 16) this is when ever she visits as she doesn't live with her dad. According to her it's because she has no where else to sleep. He drinks alot and so did she whenever over there...also usually it's binge drinking so goes to bed and crashes out, BUT HER"S THE THING!! when she was younger she was sexually abused by her father!!! You would think that someone who despises their father so much for this that they would rather sleep on the floor, anything but sleep next to the one that "fuked you up" I think this is wrong AND WEIRD, how many other people think that there's something wrong with this situation..? o.O

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  • wibamuftw
    11 years ago

    Definitely weird and sad because she probably has PTSD because of it, or is not mentally stable and is still getting abused. Her dad should also be in jail or dead. Don't even get me started on how strongly I hate child molesters.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      hmm but isn't PTSD when you avoid the situation/people or triggers as much as possible to reduce arousing those feelings of pain?? I researched it and that's some of what i found. Another thing, i came to the realization after the situation had been long gone, that sadly in this case you cant blame the father as she willingly jumped in his bed next to him, ofc you can blame him for the previous years though. So im concerned...is she mentally sick and do you really think something was going on..the door was even locked sometimes? :O :/

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      • wibamuftw
        11 years ago

        Good point, it would give her anxiety and repulse her. You can blame the father though, because it is obviously NOT RIGHT and being a grown adult whether it was in fact her idea or not, should have quickly declined and never done it in the first place. Usually by the term sexual abuse though, it means it was the fathers intent, otherwise it would just be incest and not sexual abuse. But like a lot of people who get taken advantage of/kidnapped/abused for a long time, they develop a kind of relationship with that person and become trusting and dependent on them.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          yes you are totally right, i do agree...and I think it may have been sexual abuse and now years later it's lead to incest. I think that it must have affected her mentally in such a way that she went back to her father and became involved. I think she may need help?

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  • malkiot
    11 years ago

    Well if she hadn't been abused it would've been normal to me.
    I often share a bed with either one of my parents when I visit one or the other or am on holiday with one of them and there is only one bed available.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      yeah but you weren't abused and she was.. do you think something was going on?

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      • malkiot
        11 years ago

        Gosh, if you really think that something is going on and that you can't trust her (and you want to stick your nose into her business), put a spycam in her room the next time her dad visits.
        That's the only way you will ever know for sure. Though I would advise against doing this. .. it could go really wrong.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          what are you on about, its got nothing to do with trust! I simply care deeply about this person and want to help her, why else would i be seeking some means of avdvice by coming on here o.O

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          • malkiot
            11 years ago

            She tells you that there is nothing going on and you don't believe her?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              I don't believe her because she is not a truthful person, and lets be honest if there is something going on do you really think a mentally ill person would admit something like that.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Something wrong? I think everything is wrong with this situation and there is a good chance that she is going to grow up thinking that these kind of male-female relationships are normal.

    My fear for girls in her (or similar) situations is that they will end up marrying/dating/having babies with men that treat them like that because that is the only treatment that they are familiar with and it's a damned shame.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      yes i thought that too, do you think something was going on..? is so, she must be mentally sick to contribute to the very thing that she admits fcked her up? O.o

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  • runbabyfly
    11 years ago

    Is your question asking is it normal that you think it's wrong? or is this situation normal? because you have a lot of votes saying it's not normal to think this is wrong but the comments seem to say otherwise.

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    • theworldsfuked
      11 years ago

      no! the people that voted its normal are agreeing with my post that specifically says how many other people think this is wrong and weird, and the comments are baking it up...O.o

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      • runbabyfly
        11 years ago

        oh okay, I see. I voted normal too.

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        • theworldsfuked
          11 years ago

          oh yeah, so u voted normal meaning that you think its normal that i find it weird and wrong, right?

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          • runbabyfly
            11 years ago

            Yeah, exactly that. I find your friend's situation a little weird/wrong too.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              ok i agree, thanks for the comment

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