Is it normal that this makes me feel so hurt?

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It's never good for a child to experience a divorce, most of the friends i've had with divorced parents seemed "Okayish" though, but you never know... Humans hide so much from the world.

But one thing that really, really can make me hurt.. Is the thought about a parent.. Let's say a father who never saw his son, never wanted to see him either. The son writing him letters mentioning things about his life, and how he does... And if they could ever "Figure" something out, only to get a letter back with the father talking about his children, and that he do not wish to see his own SON... Not wanting to SEE HIS OWN SON?...

This is so frustrating for me, it makes me want to barf... How?... How can a man like that live with himself?.. How can he wake up every morning feeling Fine/Happy/Confident with himself?....

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    I don't know how someone could be like that, either. I suspect that he doesn't wake up in the mornings feeling fine, happy or confident, though. He's probably a miserable person.

    Who can say why someone would do this? Maybe he still has a lot of bad feelings toward his son's mother. Maybe he feels so bad about how things happened in the past that he can't confront a future with his son. Maybe he's undergone so many changes from who he was in the past to who he is now that he feels it would be best to stay out of his son's life. Maybe he's just the worst; some people are.

    One thing's certain, though: Whatever the reason, it has nothing to do with the son. I don't know if you're the son in question or if you're writing about someone else, but whoever he is, he is a vastly better human being than his father.

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    • Anime7
      11 years ago

      I've seen you reply to other posts on here and honestly I think you give pretty solid advice.

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      • ProseAthlete
        11 years ago

        Thanks, Anime; I appreciate that. :) This was an easy one, though. It's obvious the "father" in question -- I don't want to dignify him by calling him a dad -- is a miserable human being.

        Sometimes people just suck. :(

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        • Anime7
          11 years ago

          Well even if it was an easy post to give advice on, I've seen others, like the one with the guy wanting to give compliments to random girls. You gave pretty good advice on that one. And a pretty good commentary on one of your replies.

          I think a person earns the title, as long as you make a conscious effort then you're a good father. And ya people can totally suck.

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  • jax906
    11 years ago

    My parents divorced when I was 10 years old. My father was verbally abusive and threatened to kidnap me from the house one night. He had it all planned out. So I was with my mom and I just started crying uncontrollably and spilled about everything. Even though I was never close to him growing up, you still imagine that perfect parent that you never had. I still see him and our relationship has grown dramatically. But there's still a part of me that feels broken inside. My parents didn't last together. What does that make me? And that's still 12-13 years later...

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    in the words of a great man.. "family is an anchor & you are the titanic" if anyone got this reference i come to their house & blow them silly

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