Is it normal that this happened? and can't trust my friends anymore?

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Yesterday, I had a trip to Chicago, alone. It was supposed to be a trip to see my friends. But I was alone the whole time because all my friends had "reasons"

Since I'm staying in the dorm and other friends went home over break, the trip sounded like it was for me. we told ourselves it will happen for sure before the break. Well, I got excited and started to plan things for it. about a week ago, I texted one of our friends what time he'd like to meet up at Chicago. a couple days before yesterday at 1 in the morning, he texted me that he had food poisoning and his families came over that he can't make it. I was half asleep that time that I texted him back later in the noon that I'm still going. As he was the sources to get to Chicago for some of my other friends, I understood many of them can't come but this one girl.

I texted this girl, who lives about an hour away from Chicago,the day before yesterday about my friends at about 9 AM. and later she texted me at 7 PM that she can't make it because she has appointments with her other friends. I got upset because she's the one who wanted it to happen in first place and she already had plan to meet up with her other friends for the day, assuming the plan is off..

the point is that all the friends that were supposed to come were really good friends of mine. especially the girl... I really liked her and looking back what she used to do to me, I can see that she had feelings for me.. but after all this happening, i feel like i'm nothing to all my friends.. this really gets me mad.... is it normal that this stuff happened? the girl? and i'm mad at all those friends?

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    Sometimes, the thought of doing something sounds really good, but then actually doing it takes a lot more effort than you'd thought.

    Maybe the girl was okay with it when she thought it was a group thing, but with it being just the two of you, she was no longer comfortable with it? I've known guys who do this kind of thing on purpose to be alone with a girl (I'm not saying you did that, just that it happens).

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    • Ksizzle
      12 years ago

      I totally agree with Alison89.. You have to think in a girls perspective. Some guys are just total creeps, and this girl could also be going through some things in her life. It's better to talk to her about how you are feeling, before jumping to conclusions..

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  • Ksizzle
    12 years ago

    Sometimes in the heat of the moment certin things get you really frustrated. Sometimes I feel the same way toward my friends. What you should do is talk to your friends and tell them that it really hurt your feelings. If they are true friends than they will understand, if they don't than that would be your decission. Just remember to keep your head up & smile (:

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  • darcilove111
    11 years ago

    you should be mad but if their good friends talk to them and figure it out

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  • Oshibaru
    12 years ago

    Perhaps she was too nervous to meet you? It happens alot~ You think you're ready to see someone you use to have feelings for but then get too scared and run away.

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  • weirdppl
    12 years ago

    It happens to me too. I'll plan an outing and text like 10 ppl asking them to come and 9 of them will say they can't. Could be bad timing, or maybe they don't feel comfortable with too little people going, because I couldn't tell them who was going for sure. Makes me feel really down but I move on

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