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So this girl has a crush on My boyfriend and he knows but they keep talking i've talked to himm about it but he says there friends. but i've known him for along time but he just became friends with her not that long ago.
| Yas girl | 2 | |
| Nah bish | 3 | |
| Tell her to f*k off | 11 | |
| Deal wit it | 5 | |
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Ideally your boyfriend ought to tell this girl that he is with you, and that she needs to leave him alone, and or he ought to block her and from his phone. However, it's not your job to manipulate or push into him into doing the right thing, and you are powerless over what he does in regards to this issue. I know this might not be what you want to hear, but if he continues to talk to her and it develops into something you may need to dump him and move on to greener pastures.
The problem is not her its between you and your bf. If him talking to other girls is a deal breaker for you then move on it won't change. If you being insecure is a deal breaker for him he should move on. Unless you 2 are the last 2 ppl on earth this will be a recurring problem and its not going to solve itself.
I think you'd be better off talking to your boyfriend about it and letting him know how it makes you feel.
That's not a lot of information to go on. You can't really blame her for having a crush. Who knows, maybe some guys you talk to have a crush on you too. That's just natural. What would be problematic is if she's actively flirts with him or worse, if he flirts back. If that's the case, tell him to break it off, because it hurts you and can't trust him like that.
But you can't really ask him to end a friendship if it's nothing more. When you're a relatively attractive and friendly human being, some people will get crushes.
You need to talk to your boyfriend, not people on the internet.
Explain that because you know this girl has a crush, you can't trust her not to act appropriately with "you" (the bf) through such a private communication at some point, and whilst you are sure he is mature enough to deal with it, the girl still has no right to be attempting it behind your back. If this girl respects your relationship, she wouldn't be texting him, which a very private thing.
You are not accusing him of flirting with her, or even her with him. You will be using sound reason to explain why you want to prevent a potential problem from occurring in the first place. If he refuses your reasoning, there is no point staying with him. You should be with a guy who takes reasonable steps to prevent your feelings from being hurt and prevent your trust being breached. If you did not know the girl had a crush that's different. But if she does you are not being unreasonable. There are plenty of guys out there so don't waste your time with the self important ones. I don't know how old you are but I'm in my late 20s and I would /never/ message with a woman who I knew was attracted to me whilst in a relationship, even if the woman I'm in a relationship didn't know. If she found out I had been talking with this other woman I would be rightfully ashamed and dumped.
So, go through the first paragraph I wrote with him. It's sound logic which appeals to both reason and your heart. Don't give him an ultimatum, leave it open like this and get him to talk about his side. If he doesn't offer to stop texting her, then you telling him to isn't going to stop him either. This way, he has made the choice for himself. Be free and be happy. Find someone who cares about your emotions.
Hell, stop being so damn jealous. It's not like your boyfriend is your property. Maybe that girl just likes your boyfriend as a person. IF he flirts with her that's different, but i think in any case your best shot would be to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about this person.
Just go with the flow. Nothing in life is garanteed, not even life itself. If your boyfriend cheats, or pays more attention to a girl he hardly knows over you even after talking to him about it, then he wasn't worth it. Sometimes it takes situations like this to see who we're dating really are.
Also, dont attack the girl. It's your boyfriend who can be wrong or right in this scenario.
easy for you to say being a woman and defending your gender when for all we know this other girl might be a cock tease and tempting the guy to cheat on his "loyal girlfriend"
Stop being so salty.
Anyway, it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. If a person doesn't have the self control to remain loyal in a monogamous relationship they agreed to enter into, then they're in the wrong, always. If a person cheats, you shouldn't fight for the cheater, but just leave him/her since they're not worth it.
It was better then then now.
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