Is it normal that thinkin about having sex with other men turns me on?

Self control is what separates the humans from the beasts. Have you even considered how much you are going to hurt this man who you claim to "love him to death" when he finds out? And he will, you know.
You are one hell of a selfish cunt and I hope to hell the reason he won't fuck your sorry ass is because he's got someone better, on the side.

"I keep it a secret because I'll only ever love him and don't want to lose him"

Bullshit!!! If you loved him you wouldn't fuck other guys behind his back.

You should never cheat on someone. If you cant stay faithful then leave him. It not right and he will find out eventually. It will only make things much worse.

I guarantee you he's thinking of other woman while fucking you as well...
Why would you get married if you're just going to cheat... doesn't that define the purpose of marriage.. ignorant..

Many of you who have responded here are too harsh and too quick to judge. Consider that something like 28% of men have affairs and nearly the same for women, and it is likely that this is figure is below the real number. Men and women cheat for different reasons, but here we have a women who is cheating for the reason that men normally give, that is as follows.

She loves her husband, she cares about him and wants a life with him. She respects him and values him, but something is missing in their sex life OR she simply needs a variety of partners to be fulfilled. BUT the problem is that he will not agree and so she is caught with the choice of breaking up their marriage and hurting him and herself that way, or having meaningless sex in secret in order to be able to get through life and keep their otherwise loving relationship intact. Many many married men have been using prostitutes to achieve the exact same thing for thousands of years.

Let is not condemn her but offer her advise in her dilemma. I would say that begin a process of normalizing the idea of this by using fantasy stories of you being with other men during sex, and get him to cum while you tell him about you being fucked hard and loving it. Soon he will become very turned on by the idea at least in fantasy. I would then bite the bullet and confess to just one affair that happened just once and never mention the others. He will still probably explode with anger and feel betrayed and may leave you ofcourse, but his newly found taste for thinking of you getting pounded by another guy will kick in and he will be torn between wanting to scream at you and tell you to fuck off, and wanting to grab you and fuck you hard while you tell him about the experience. If the latter happens then this may eventually lead to him allowing you to ocassionally fuck other men in a cuckold type lifestyle which frankly is the lifestyle you really need rather than swinging. I feel for your situation, and I wish you all the best.

Don't listen to anyone. You're one selfish bitch who dosent deserve a loving husband

You should just come clean. I always say when you love some one do not lie to them, you have an issue that you need to work on. If you want to have sex with men be single! Don't hurt the one you love. Talk to him and come to a conclusion. Always tell the truth even if it hurts you or the other person.

Okay... I honestly don't like the fact that you've had sex with someone else and not told him... That's the horrible kind of cheating, leading him to believe everything is fine. Just to let you know, the longer you keep it a secret the harder it's going to hit him and the more likeliness it has to ruin everything - especially if he finds out himself (which will happen eventually).

Swinging is your best option if you want your relationship to survive... The thing is you need to be clear with your husband and tell him if he's banging other women then you get to bang other men... Here's the logic behind it:

If you bang someone, and keep it a secret - it's cheating.
If you talk to your partner about it, gain permission and they know it's happened, it's not cheating.

It's an amazing way to spice up the sex life, I mean, I'm only 19 so I'm not that experienced in the swingers life but I have a good relationship with my parents and know they live that lifestyle and once you get past that point with the whole permission concept and you start to fool around with other people, you'll enjoy it, and end up with other couples as well (which is one of the most exciting kinds, I've had sex with a woman while her husband was watching before)

It won't work if you're not both on board and both have the same abilities as the other to go out and do it because if he gets to bang other women and you don't get to bang other men, jealousy is eventually going to play a part.

dear me. it's women like you that repulse me to ever get married.

you're delusional. Love him to death but cheated on him. Claim you both are open but have never told him about this.

I could give you the perfect/safest thing to say to him that will not only help you confess to him but might save your marriage too. but it's borderline manipulative and since you willingly screwed many guys, my conscience doesn't allow me to give you that get-out-of-jail-free card.

it's normal to have such thoughts but screamingly abnormal to act on them

please tell him. you're being selfish in hiding it from him while getting drilled other folks. your "good relationship" is a lie until you tell him the truth. if your marriage falls apart, then let it be a lesson, and never marry again.

sounds like u got a dilemma, missy! maybe try getting an assortment of different dildos?