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I hate it so much! Whenever I hear about oral sex it makes me so agitated and sickened. I'm utterly repulsed by it. I'm not repulsed by sex or sexual things in general, only oral.
I don't know why, I just kind of feel a little sad deep inside, but angry too. Is it normal?
Uh... no.
I'm fine with literally everything else. Vaginal sex, handjobs, anal, creepy excremental fetishes. Hell, even footjobs. But oral makes me feel upset inside.
Pensylvanian Dutch, I think. I guess they finally got on the Net down there...
im a girl and in the same boat as you, i find it repulsive, thats where you eat for christ sakes !
I find giving is degrading and receiving is just fuckn weird, its called use the magic fingers and get him to rub you right, and DONT be afraid to be a critic in the process, the only way he'll master a hole in one is if he passes training .
I haven't before but I wouldn't have a problem doing so.
Now if she were to attempt it on me, I'd be instantly flushed with repulsion and agitation, for some reason.
I think you should go down on her. Then let her kiss your body down as far as your comfortable with. Maybe over time you'll get used to the idea. Sure you can live without oral sex but it's pretty awesome.
Well, see, I really don't want her to. Because, she doesn't like doing it. I've heard stories of her giving her ex-boyfriend oral, and it always makes my stomach turn. So, I feel like I never want to make her do something that she doesn't want to. Perhaps that's what it is?
But, even when I hear of other people doing it who don't have a problem with it, it makes me uneasy.
what sickens you about it?
i know one man who said he was grossed out by the thought of licking a woman so close to where she pees from. he also said he enjoyed BJs but that his dick knew the difference and he never came from it.
It's not the mouth-to-genitalia concept that's gross to me. I just feel distressed and upset when I think about that ever happening.
why? what about it distresses you?
have you considered whether or not it's repressed memories?
I think it's because, my girlfriend, whom I love with all my heart, doesn't like doing it. She is totally disgusted by it, and yet, she thinks she should do it for me. I don't like that. I've heard about how she did it for her fuck-faced little ex-boyfriend, and it just makes me revolted and enraged, that he would have her do that even though she didn't want to. He would hurt her when she did anything wrong, so she was basically forced to.
I think that's why it disgusts me. But, for some reason, I'm totally disgusted whenever I hear about it from anyone, even those who have no problem with it. Gah, it just makes me so damn angry.
I know for a long time when I was younger I was sickened by oral because my first bf pressured me into doing it before I felt comfortable. Eventually I was able to get over it and have a normal sex life with someone.
Point being, it sounds like you care about your girlfriend a hell of a lot. And you said he would hurt her... I hate to be the one to toss out the sugarcoating here, but that was rape, doesn't matter that she was dating him. You probably form this as a pretty strong association in your mind, which is why the thought of it in general upsets you.
And counselling could be very beneficial in this situation, epsecially for your girlfriend. As a fellow survivor, I hope you and her can get the help you need.
i would suggest you both go to couples therapy then.
i can completely understand not wanting to make her suck you off if she's been physically abused over it. but transferring it to illness with anyone else who does it willingly... that's not exactly natural. even if it's clear about why you came to that place in life.
now me... personally i don't exactly "like" it, but the part i hate the most is taking a load in my mouth.
but in my case it works out well. My boyfriend doesn't orgasm from oral sex so that part will never happen. My mouth will tire out first (I've tried). and he ***doesn't*** demand... whenever I pleasure him that way, it's because I *want* to.
Why do I do this if I don't entirely like it? Because ... it's not a "hard dislike". It's just a mild one. On my list of "Yes, No, and Maybe" it falls into the "maybe" list somewhat.