Is it normal that the person you loved the most can hurt you badly?

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We became such a good friends in our college days. we were so close to each other. But then later I came to know that he is already in love with somebody else. First I couldn't take it. i was feeling really bad and decided to move on and to forget as he don't exist. But the problem was, i was already in love with that guy that it was hard to leave him. then i decided whatever little time we had, will spend it together. i loved him truly and i still do. now its been almost 6 yrs and i am still stuck that same guy. I really love him a lot but trying my best to hold my feelings back so that it won't create any problem in his personal life. now he is getting married and i am not sure whether i can take it or not. So please help me with yours suggestion.
Thank you

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Just let it all out... Tell him how you felt for all these years.

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  • BrokenMe
    12 years ago

    @Joybird:
    I thank you for all your suggestions. What you have written are all so true. But the problem is, I don't feel interested in any other guy. I mean its hard to fall again. I was proposed by some but I don't know whether i can remain faithful to them or not. Do you think it is possible for me to fall in love again?? if you are in place,what would you prefer then? is it possible to overcome fully from this guy?

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  • BrokenMe
    12 years ago

    hey joybird, I once decided to leave him and move on. I did that but then he insisted me to stay saying he really needs me. I was so confused not knowing what to do. I already made my mind to avoid his existence but all the time he kept calling and messaging me saying he is not well. some told me that I am wasting my time. but every time, i had fear that what if i might not see him again. I desperately wanted to say good bye but he is not letting me to do that. before, he only calls or sms when he feels down and needy. but since the moment I decided to move on, he changed. it seems like as he realized my importance. I know he don't love me. then why he is stopping me?? why he needs me?? he knows that i cant move on if he is with me but he is not letting me go. I am afraid i may not fall in love ever again. What should I do now... needed help.

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      The minute you tell a guy you are moving on, you suddenly become much more interesting and valuable. Or if you get another man!

      It's just like a child with a toy! They don't want it until it's going to be taken away.

      My only concern is for you and you need to get out of this ASAP! He is using you and wasting yout time, but wants you on the side in case his other relationship doesn't work out.

      You are worth ten of him so go and find a decent man!!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I can't make out if you are in a sexual relationship with him or not. If so, he's just using you for a bit on the side.

    If not, and you are just friends then you need to let him go coz you're just torturing yourself and he's making it very clear he doesn't love you. He really loves someone else enough to want to marry them - that's a very serious commitment which may well lead to children!

    It's better to get out ASAP and find yourself a new man, waste no more time.

    Easier said than done I know, but time will heal the wound :o(

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