Is it normal that the mother of my daughter's crush asked to meet?

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my daughter who is in jr high has a crush at school ( no biggie) as do most teens. she is in 8th grade, and almost always is talking about this boy. Last week i received a call from the boy's mother(whom i have never met)she introduced herself as the mother of my daughter's really good friend or boyfriend? "as they call it in school" is what she said. By the way my daughter is not allowed to date let alone have a boyfriend,she called to ask me to meet and talk about the kids? i was confused at first, so i said "sure my place or yours" then she said "well i kinda want to do it away from the kids" so i asked what she had in mind. She said let's meet at Chili's 3 pm friday, i immediatly said sure ( not sure what i was thinking) so now i have a meeting with a lady i do not know whom i agreed to meet and talk about our kids.I have also asked my daughter if there's anything she has to fess up to, she said NO mom you know everything about me, her and I have a really close relationship and talk very often i keep up on her grades and attendance often, she is a great kid. IS THIS NORMAL?

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  • bigguy2010
    11 years ago

    In middle school, having a boyfriend might just mean sitting near him in the cafeteria, walking to a class together, maybe even holding hands.

    I would be more concerned (not mad) about why she feels the need to hide it from you. Why do you forbid her to date? Think about your rational and the way you treat her in other instances. Are you overcontrolling? You may need an objective outside observer to answer this question.

    You are the adult, and you need to repair your relationship with your daughter so that she feels comfortable and safe when telling you about her life and confiding in you about her thoughts and desires.

    I'm not saying you should spoil her, let her do whatever she wants, or that you should be a friend instead of a parent. Just critically evaluate your relationship with your daughter and ask if this is the healthy relationship that is best for her.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Your daughter isn't allowed a boyfriend? That is a very unfair rule. I knew a girl who had parents who were really restrictive in that sort of area, not allowed to drink, not allowed to date, not allowed to go out to pubs, not allowed to stay out late and she missed out on a lot of great times with her friends. Yeah she might have done well in college and university but so did the people who were allowed to go out and do whatever they wanted.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I suppose so. Some parents feel the need to get to know their child's crushes' parents. Go and meet her. Relax, be truthful and try to have a good time.

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  • ConfoundedDad
    10 years ago

    She probably feels the need to tell you that her boy has been banging your daughter.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Uhm sounds kind of like she just scheduled a date with you.

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  • tribechick90
    11 years ago

    Totally normal, she's just being friendly and probably wants to get to know you incase the two of them start hanging out more, I doubt she's going to have "the talk" with you about middle school aged kids or anything! My mom got upset once because when I was a lot younger (now 22) my b/f at the time's mom used to never come to the door to say hey to her when she picked me up from his house, she just wanted to get to know his family :) probably the same with you

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