Is it normal that the first person i want to come out to is my pastor?

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I've been going to this non denominational Christian chruch for the past year and have grown to become pretty religious. I am gay and have learned to accept it, surprisingly ever since I started going to this church because the pastor is welcoming to every person that walks into the church. he does not judge anyone which is why I feel I have grown to love this church. I have not come out to anyone and I feel that I am not ready to tell my closest friends and definitely not my family. yet I feel really comfortable telling my pastor.

is it normal for me to want to tell him? please give me feedback.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'm afraid if you are looking for a sex partner, you're in the wrong church; try a Catholic church instead. I hear those priests are really into that sort of thing.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I didn't see your follow-up comment before posting my initial comment.

    I once actually came out to my then priest when I was a minor. This woman, I truly believe was a lesbian. She had a woman she lived with and a posse of gay people. In general, this isn't a fact that I would have a problem with. What I do have an issue with is that right after I came out to her, she started behaving inappropriately towards me. First she ask me (forced me) into giving her a kiss in communion and even rated it. Telling me that I would get better. The last thing she did, was to try to hook me up with a woman, who was many decades older than me, when I was still a minor!

    I am glad that your priest isn't acting untoward with you after coming out. It is nice to hear that he is not abusing the powers of his position. He sounds like a great man.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    Of course it's normal. Your pastor should be as accepting as he expects anyone else to be.

    I wish you the best.

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    • whos5ryan
      9 years ago

      I told my pastor yesterday and i feel like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders.

      he is the only person that I have come out to and feel very happy about it.

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      • Short4Words
        9 years ago

        i'm happy to hear that. I hope the rest aren't so bad either.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    9 years ago

    It's defiantly normal! The man has chosen to spend his life helping people. If your pastor wasn't a man that you could trust for support in a situation like that, you would be at the wrong church!

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  • hello_its_just_me
    7 years ago

    if he accepts a myth, im sure hell accept you

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Normal in Theory. Do you know what his views on the LGBT are? I would make sure that you know first before you come out to him. I am not trying to discourage you because, I know how it feels to be in your situation. I just want you to be prepared and think practically.

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