Is it normal that the boy i like treats me kindly and then bad?

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I have a classmate at uni. I’ve thought he likes me, since in some occasions he treats me so well; he is manly, sweet and given when we’re together, reason that makes me think he’s feeling something for me. However, just in seconds he changes and doesn’t even greet me when we see each other.

The other day he said he loved me. But then I decided it was better to face the music and talk to him. I did it, confessed my feelings and he said he wished me the best in life and he wished I was able to find a man who loves me….

I’m going crazy.. What do you advise me?

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  • charli.m
    4 years ago | pl

    He's a manipulative dick. This is how abusers start their relationships. Find someone better.

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    • curiosilla
      4 years ago

      Thank you so much for your opinion. It is very useful. I'll do my best to forget him, eventhough it's being really difficult cause my feelings for him are so very strong... Lots of cheers for you!

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Yes, yes... a thousand times, yes!

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    People like him are a burden. Move on and find someone else.

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  • rabbitgowhere
    4 years ago

    He's just manipulating you. Because you're young and easy to manipulate.
    People who love you care about how you feel.

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Find someone more predictable.

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    • curiosilla
      4 years ago

      Thank you so very much!

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  • curiosilla
    3 years ago

    Yep, super!

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  • --
    4 years ago

    Normal hormonal crap, things are awkward at this age. Maybe he has low self esteem or closes up in certain situations and doesn't say what he means.

    Or simply you are taking his niceness when you are alone for something it is not, then he treats you like any other person in other situations. As for the "love you" he probably said it in a different context to what you think (found your calculator "thanks I love you your the best") I think this is more what is going on. I don't think he is interested in you like that, he is not being mean or doing anything wrong, simply move on.

    Everyone acts differently when they are alone.

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Nope, the guy is not normal.

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      • curiosilla
        4 years ago

        Thanks a lot.

        My problem is that his actions made me feel that he was acting as if he really loved me.

        While he was telling he loved me, he was hugging me and talking to my ear. He whispered this words to me and I really, really thought he was into me, but as soon as I confessed him my felling I realized how mistaken I was.

        Sincerely, thank you so much for your time to answer!

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        • RoseIsabella
          4 years ago

          You're very welcome!

          I think this guy is the type who likes to mess with people. He could also be a narcissistic abuser. Narcissists like to initially love-bomb people, but then they start to devalue, and heavily criticize the same people as a means of manipulation, and control.

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          • curiosilla
            3 years ago

            I think so too. His attitudes didn't fit his words.

            I think he just wanted to feed his ego and I was a good option...

            THanks a lot

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            • RoseIsabella
              3 years ago

              You're most welcome. Don't be afraid to just forget about this jerk.

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        • --
          4 years ago

          I don't get a thank you for my time, because I don't say what you want to hear. I think I see what the issue is, and I think its more you. no offence.

          I think you only hear what you want to hear and once you admitted your love he was more stern with you now realising this was getting out of hand 💥

          Like I said, MOVE ON. Not sure what you want out of this post?

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  • DrFeelGoood
    4 years ago

    Please dont let him take up space in your heart <3 he is a dickhead, and wants to start his relationships on unsure emotions so that he has an excuse to treat you badly in a relationship. like "ive always acted this way, its your fault for agreeing to date"

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    • curiosilla
      3 years ago

      Sad but true, it's my fault...

      I am doing my best to ignore him, his messajes and all about him. He's being detrimental to my emotional health so I am willing to forget him now.

      Thank you so much for your advice!

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