Is it normal that sometimes i just "sit there"?

For about the past year I've been going through phases in which I just sit on my porch and do absolutely nothing. I just sit and stare. Sometimes I think, sometimes I don't. The times I'm not thinking I feel like a statue trapped in a box. The times I do think seem to get me nowhere. It's usually a day or two a month and it's like for that one day I have given up on life. It's been getting worse these past few months. I will sit and do nothing for most of the day. It can take me days to talk myself into doing something I need to do such as clean house or wash my car. In these phases I'll take hours or even all day to talk myself into eating, even with my stomach growling and me wanting to gain weight - it just doesn't bother me or motivate me. It does bother me that it doesn't bother me though. Same thing with sleep and waking up. It just doesn't feel worth it sometimes to take care of myself or my life. I feel like I've lost all motivation and I feel like there's nothing I can do about this "statue phase" aside from just going through it. I haven't always been like this. Sure, I've had my meditative moments, but this is more like something I can't control. Does anyone else go through such things? I'm aware that it may be depression...

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  • flowergirl87

    Hmm know what you mean. If you start getting like this more often then I would take it seriously and look into what to do about it. I get days a bit like this as well. It's not fun. It's not that uncommon either, especially amongst creative people. But it's very frustrating when motivation levels are so low. If you can, exercise often helps.

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  • kawaiiichigo

    Sounds like severe depression. You should really see a therapist, this is not healthy or normal.

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  • 53739

    It feels good to relax.

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  • Demundo

    Early signs of dementia?

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Not enough hours in the day to do what you want to do.

    Some people get hom and they know the exact amount of time they will be back at work so they start thinking if i watch a film i will only have x amount of hours before i have to start getting ready for work again and if i sleep then i am wasting 6-8 hours.

    Crazy but it happens.

    I had to piss in a bottle this morning so they can test it.

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    • So true. I don't even watch films most of the time because it feels like a waste of 90 minutes.But I do surf the Web for hours. I guess it feels more productive.

      Damn random drug testing.

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      • Oh I mean "random".

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  • Hugh*Janus

    The problem isn't that you "just sit there". The problem is you think "just sitting there" is a problem.

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    • If I were Hugh*Janus it probably wouldn't be so bad.

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      • Hugh*Janus

        You should only do what you want to do. You shouldn't let outside pressures or ideals force you to do things nor make you feel guilty for not doing things. It's your life, it's all you truly have so live it how you want to. Ain't a damn thing wrong with sitting on the porch unless you let yourself believe there's something wrong with it.

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        • But what about my children? They want me to do stuff.

          I do thank you for your response. Honestly, if I didn't have kids this wouldn't be such a big deal to me. I agree that sitting around feels damn good sometimes, but in moderation. Lately I just can't fight it and I've never felt so unproductive.

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          • Hugh*Janus

            So break the cycle. Your parents or some parenting ideal said that being active is better but if you teach your kids to do like you do then what's the problem? Are you trying to teach your kids to be something that you don't believe in? Don't teach your kids to wash the car if you don't feel like washing the car is more important than "just sitting there".

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            • You know what? You are right! I didn't even mention kids in my post for fear of judgment that sitting around equals bad parenting. I still think I'm going overboard and at this point washing the car IS more important (lol) but you do make me feel better. I will definitely feel better both sitting on my ass and washing my car (separately) tomorrow thanks to you :)

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  • "Is it normal that sometimes I just "sit there"

    If you only read that far the question seems hilarious.

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    • Hahahaha... how exactly are you interpreting this?

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  • Jayy

    You need someone to love in your life.

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  • lolol555

    This is not normal but I clicked normal by accident, sorry.

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  • soul-man

    It's the onset of catatonic schizophrenia.

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    • Seriously?

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      • soul-man

        Prove me wrong, then.

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        • I just wanted to know if you were serious. That's frightening.

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          • soul-man

            Well, I may not be an actual psychiatrist, but I have been institutionalized before. That's first hand experience in mental illness, better than any doctor out there imo.

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            • Well I hope it's not that, although the term 'catatonic' has crossed my mind regarding this situation..

              I think the causes are more external than internal, so probably not schizophrenia. meh... I guess I'll go get an internet diagnoses.

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  • PureLikeSnow

    You're going to have to get rid of that habit. I'm usually at home because I lack a decent number of friends, so I usually ponder a lot about imperative subjects and wants. Despite this, I still exercise, complete my errands, and a few other noteworthy things. I can tell you this: You may have depression if you're failing to complete your daily demands. Change that, you'll regret sitting there like a sedentary rock if you don't accomplish something by the end of the day.

    On an unrelated note, your first sentence in the paragraph reminds me of the term 'porch monkey' from Clerks II. Haha.

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    • I guess I am a porch monkey :)

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      • RoseIsabella

        Are you in Alabama?

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  • Shroot

    Just gotta find a hobby dude

    Football/Baseball/Archery it doesn't even have to be sport, could be something like photography. Just think about something you've always wanted to do and go for it.

    I used to be depressed and i took up football (soccer) and now i play at quite a high standard. This also got me fit so i was feeling good about myself and i felt motivated and i was also socialising.

    Doing nothing... is the worst thing you can do, so just get up and do something you love

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    • I have hobbies, but not wanting to do those either. I think I just miss my friends/family and I feel like I have no control over my life. I did drive my car off into the night to walk around town, but found that the world only reflected these melancholic feelings. I'm coming out of the phase though, it's just happening more frequently. I will put more effort into doing the things I want to do, thanks for the suggestion. Of course, I have to sort of fight people (mentally) who don't want me to do what I want.

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  • bemah

    You sound very depressed :/

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  • Short4Words

    I think it might be yea. Why don't you do something about it?

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    • No motivation, heat, snakes and other excuses. I'll be returning to uni soon, maybe that will help, but it's going to be harder if this keeps up.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Heat and snakes? Are there any alligators? Are you on the bayou down in Louisiana?

        Seriously, where are you from?

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        • Nope, not Alabama either. Lol why do you want to know where i'm from so bad?

          There are alligators too.

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          • RoseIsabella

            I want to know where you're from because I've spent a lot of time in the Deep South but I was raised in Texas and I guess I'm just curious is all. I live in the desert now and I hate the dry, dusty, ungodly heat! Sorry, I guess I'm just homesick.

            Are you in Florida or Mississippi?

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      • Short4Words

        Snakes?! :s

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