Is it normal that since i was about 13 someone's always wanted me

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Since I was 13, so half my life, I've never had a single day where someone didn't want me to be their girlfriend. It sounds like it should be a good thing but it hasn't been. When ever I've been single I've had people (men and women) pursuing me, many I've sort of given into being with but have never just chosen a person and tried to make them like me!

I want to pursue a person, choose someone I like n let them fall in love with me whilst i fall for them too, rather than making do with someone because they like or love me.

I'm not stunning, though most don't agree with that, at most I'm cute, I'm of average intelligence but I consider myself quite intuitive and quite witty but really nothing special! It almost feels like I find a person feeling too much for me as a turn off so I eventually end it.

I want to have a happy and healthy relationship but I feel like I'll always be in relationships that are basically a sham and I'll stay because I hate hurting people, especially ones that have feeling for me!

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago | pl

    Really. Not a single day in 13 years? Was it a different person everyday?? That's nearly 5000 people. I call bullshit! (#2 on my speed dial.)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      No not a different person :P about 30 people in all

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I envy you. At 36 I've been mostly single and hate it with a passion. I'm even suicidal because of it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Don't envy me. It hasn't made me happy and there's been plenty of times I've been depressed over it. I've lost a lot of friends through it and it hurts to know that they only really wanted to be around me to be with me or to get in my nickers. People I've genuinely loved as if they were my family and when I say there's no chance of a relationship to loose them from my life has made me have relationships with them just to keep them in my life. With some I still miss them but know the only way they'll talk to me again is if I phone them and say I want more than a friendship when I don't!

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        10 years ago

        Isn't life unfair? Those who get sex easily don't value it. Those who don't get it easily are frowned upon for being only interested in it.

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I know what you mean. I'm way younger, but I have contemplated suicide due to loneliness. Although, it's good to hear that you're alive though brosef.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        10 years ago

        Don't feel down about it, it'll be all the more sweeter when you find that special person x

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        • Anime7
          10 years ago

          I know that I'll find that special person someday. I keep telling myself I will, but in the meantime, I just feel so alone. Thanks though OP, for trying to cheer me up :)

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            10 years ago

            That fact that you haven't just got into just any relationship will mean a lot to the person you choose :)

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            • Anime7
              10 years ago

              Thank you, but why is that exactly? I appreciate the compliment, but that just like a weird thing. Do you mean that it will make having sex be special? Cause if so I sort of agree.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Same, somewhat. Even from a younger age.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      How do you deal with it?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I just grew apathetic about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    of course! people eyes are attracted to beauty, we stare :)

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  • mow<3
    10 years ago

    I get this too. Apparently it's cos I flirt, I just don't realise I'm doing it. I think I'm being friendly!
    Unfortunately my solution is to try and be openly hostile to everyone I meet :-) doesn't work but at least I try?

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    So you are upset because you feel pressured. Yeah that makes sense and I could see where that would be annoying.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Just because someone is interested in you doesn't mean you have to be with them. You shouldn't have to live a lie to spare someone's feelings.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    IDK WHO YOU ARE, BUT I THINK I LOVE YOU >8}

    lol but I get that you prefer a genuine relationship, i'll tell you that secret when I figure it out... so probably never =)

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