Is it normal that she'll never know she was my first?

So I'm fairly new to the sex game, about 8 months active with my girlfriend. She's like the definition of awesome actually.

Thing is we met online a while back. Chatted up the other and just so I could keep up and not bore her, I told her I wasn't a Virgin either , hell with the stuff I said I might as well have told her I invented sex actually (cause what girl is interested in taking a guys virginity right?).

Almost a year later we finally hook up and get the ball rolling with sex being on top of the list.

You can fake it apparently. Read enough the newbie books, blog posts, magazines and you won't seem like a total noob so she bought it quite easily and got a complement out of it too ment for someone with experience.

Yes we've hit it so often to call it unhealthy and yes, you could say I've gotten better by the expected standards. She's definitely not complaining but it seems like we aren't on the same page.

Your first time is supposed to be special right? Something that your partner should claim responsibility for and perhaps carry with pride?

I lied to her though if I was to reflect back to it all now I think I can safely say I would have just stayed in the friend zone if I was honest. But all of it feels just so... Cheepened. Like I never really get the closure from loosing it we're all supposed to feel.

Yes, bottom line non the less is I lied... Butta.... Does anybody have a clue on what happens if I come straight with her? Is this even normal to be wary of? Or should I just shut up, be glad I'm getting laid and stop being a wuss?

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  • White__October

    You should have just told her she was your first, then you wouldn't have had all this trouble. And she probably would have had sex with you anyway.

    What girl is interested in taking a guys virginity? More than you think! I've taken the virginity of two guys myself and I'm not ashamed to say that!

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    My boyfriend recently told me I took his virginity... 8 years after the deed was done. Quite frankly I don't believe him now that so much time has gone by. It made me happy to hear it at first, but I can't fully accept it as truth because of the stories he may or may not have made up about having sex. When we first got together he told me he had sex with a girl he was dating for a couple of months. After 8 months we broke up. 8 months later we got back together and he took my virginity. A couple years later he told me he penetrated another girl for less than a minute while we were on break and "it didn't really count". Now recently he's told me it didn't even go that far.

    Personally, I hate fucking mind games. He took something special from me and he might as well have never told me because now I only question it when I had already accepted that he'd slept with 2 others before me.

    However, since your girl wasn't a virgin and you've only been together 8 months I don't think she will resent you for telling her the truth a little late. Drag it out for years and make up sex stories and she will resent you; if it comes/has come to that you might as well not tell her until you're on your death bed, if ever at all.

    If you have made up sex stories but you want to tell her soon, just know you've got some splainin' to do. If you don't explain yourself well enough she might not believe you. If she has any questions, don't avoid them; you need to put her mind at ease. And don't tell her when your relationship is rocky or she'll think you're trying to form a false sense of attachment.

    Bottom line: I think you should tell her before it's too late.

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  • peterrabbyt3

    Does she know about you and other men?

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  • I don't like dishonesty and would be a little hurt and angry if my bf had lied to me about his virginity/non virginity, merely for the sake of lying. I wouldn't throw a bitch fit or anything, but still.

    She might be totally chill, or angry, it all depends on the girl really. You know her better than us IIN users do, so it would have to be your call! Overall, it's not really a huge deal at least.

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  • dom180

    Why would she care? The only problem was the problem you made for yourself by lying, but I doubt she'll care even considering that. She might think it's cute for all I can guess.

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