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I know this girl whom I have asked out before, but claimed she had a boyfriend. So is it normal that we text every night and she asks mostly non-sexual, personal questions? I like this girl and she admittedly finds me "fascinating" but I do not understand her intentions.
If you're bigger than her boyfriend then you should fuck her.
If not, then it's probably not a good idea.
So is it wrong of me to continue to text her and like the attention? She never mentions him, and we never allude to the prospect of anything but friendship so I do not feel as though I am doing any wrong, honestly.
It's normal for women to have platonic male friends. I grew up having a large group of male friends and only a couple of female friends, so sometimes I naturally feel more at ease chatting it up with a man than a woman. It doesn't mean I want them sexually, I just like their friendship.
So, I guess what I'm trying to say is; don't jump to any conclusions. Relax and enjoy your friendship with her.
She's keeping you in the "Emergency only" case. When things go awry, if you say the right words, then you get her. You're her back up. DO NOT let her keep it up. Let her know your intentions and if she keeps wanting to keep you in the friend zone, either leave her alone, or MY personal favorite, get her friends. Makes her watch as you have fun with them that she could've had.
Oh, and that's if she really has a bf. Try asking her why she texts you even though she said so. Then grow up and realize this truth, if she text you while with him, wouldn't she text another man/boy possibly her ex again, while with you?
this is something that girls do called keeping you "on the hook" you're the back up guy so that if she breaks up with her boyfriend she can go straight to you, cry, mess around a bit and then ditch you for the first hot (by this i mean abusive) guy that she meets.
You're pretty much the "on the shelf" guy, in case her current, or maybe others, don't work out. I have a business group friend like that, but also know what she's up to, so let it continue. Have been with her a few times, but she also has a bf. She'll text me often, usually basic, what up to, how doing, we need to get together stuff, but sometimes..I get the heavy, sexual texts.
Was home one night, and she asked me to meet her at the pharmacy, as her card or something wasn't working to get her allergy meds. Mid-text, she mentions was there "buying skin cream, b/c you know how soft my thighs are", and a teasing "It's freezing in here, and I'm wearing those tiny blue shorts you've seen me in". I did meet her and take care of the meds issue, and, yes..She had on those tiny shorts. Leaving, though, she again referred to me as "my buddy". All this teasing and sexual overtones, and, I'm her buddy.. But again, I know this is the deal with her, and let it go until we hop in the sack next time. Know she's not leaving her bf anytime soon.
Maybe she just wants to be friends :) She may seem flirty but maybe that's just the way she is. Just don't do anything that would upset her boyfriend and don't text her anything she could use against you and show her boyfriend so that he comes and beats you up (if that's what she intends...)She probably wants to get to know you better.
Tempting to stay in touch, I realise. But she is probably fucking around with you.
As my colleague above warns, if it was to come to something, how do you know there will not be another 'textee'? I speak from bitter experience, unfortunately.