Is it normal that she can't forgive herself?

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SO I've been dating this girl for over a year. Basically the story's like this: She cheated with some dude who's been having a crush on her since they were 16 (we're all 20 now), she confessed a week after, forgiveness, topic no longer brought up, yadda. We were a couple for two months that time, and now it's a little after our one year thing. I love her to bits but every few weeks or so, when she thinks I'm asleep, she'd sneak into the living room and cry on the phone telling her sister how "awful a girlfriend" she was when she committed infidelity with that dude LAST YEAR. Sometimes, after one of those exchange of emotional words, she'd say, "I love you.. But I wasn't loyal, I don't deserve you.." Is it normal that girls linger around in guilt like that? I mean, seriously, a year?

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  • colourmoon
    12 years ago

    i couldn't forgive myself ever if i cheated on my bf.

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  • RidingSheepOnClouds
    12 years ago

    Thank your lucky stars that she actually cares - I've been on the receiving end of infidelity and I can tell you that they couldn't have cared less and honestly didn't see anything wrong with what they'd done. I've never been one to ever think that infidelity was okay - but if you forgive her then just reiterate that to her every day, talk about it... she clearly needs to.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Some people have more guilt than others. In this case you must be a great bf. I would never feel that bad about cheating unless my boyfriend was really awesome.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think she just thinks you're a really good guy and when she cheated on you she felt immense guilt. I'm just stating the obvious. However,she could have some conflicting emotions. Try talking to her, she sounds like an amazing gf for actually confessing and still feeling guilty for this long.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    I kinda wish that was the case. At least it wouldn't be my fault generally. But I'm certain she likes me, and like, only me. I don't really know if her background has anything to do with us, but her dad has three wives. So she hates cheaters.

    As for her liking the dude. Nah. He tried to ambush me with his two friends once cause I "bewitched her why else would she not like" him. So I'm guessing she turned him down.

    But thanks man, for the consideration and whatnot.

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    • STFU23
      12 years ago

      arent u the one that was with the prostitute? jesus, how many gfs do u have??????????

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    Well that 'Dude' is who she wants to be with, if she knows it or not.
    Sorry to inform you.

    She needs to resolve her conflict with that 'dude' (yeehaw!) and this may mean going out with him again.

    Aren't you glad you heard that?
    Now this all comes down to how compassionate you are to what she needs.

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