Is it normal that she always has a blank expression?

My friend (a teenage girl) is quite strange. She's always quiet, and acts weird, but the thing that always creeps us out, is that she never shows any emotions. Her face is always blank. You see absolutely nothing behind her eyes. She looks totally disconnected. When you look at her, it's like looking at nothing. She's beautiful, and wherever she goes she gets hit on, but it's like she doesn't notice, or doesn't care. She's quiet, but wise. She always gives the best advice, but she says it like it's just words, and there's no meaning behind it.

We could be having the most deep conversation, or watching a really emotional movie, yet she still seems disconnected. Our teachers always point out that "she's not paying attention", but she always gets the best grades, and actually listens in class. She just doesn't have anything in her eyes. It really brakes my heart. It brakes all of our hearts, her friends, and her family. Her family has told me that she has always been that way, but they don't know why, because there's nothing mentally wrong with her. Whenever I ask her how she feels, she always just says, "nothing".

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, so why is there nothing behind hers?

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57% Normal
Based on 243 votes (139 yes)
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Comments ( 32 )
  • jesusdiedlol

    Is your friend Kristen Stewart?

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  • There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with her...

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  • Lockets

    I don't know the full story here, but is it possible that she may have Asperger's syndrome, a form of autism?
    Some of the things that you describe may point towards this. Does she have OCD tendancies?
    People who have this are often very intelligent but seem to lack the usual normal human emotions.

    Does she think that she is different/needs help?
    Does she know that her friends are a bit worried about her?

    Maybe a doctor could help if she is willing.
    It's a tricky one. If she 'feels' normal, then she is unlikely to want to seek any help. If her friends suggest to her that she should seek help, she may be offended.
    Take time and keep an eye on her!
    You sound like a really good friend to her, by the way!

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  • SAEH

    People with a Swedish background have this gene in them

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  • pwnhead

    it's alright! there's nothing wrong with her. some people just have a pokerface 24/7.
    like arnold schwarzenegger ;)

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  • purplepepper

    I have that problem as well... after years of depression (I assume) I subconsciously block out all emotions, happy, sad, angry, you name it. And I always have a blank expression on my face, but I wasn't always this way. You should talk to her about it.

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  • I_am_fucked_up

    This reminds me of the story "The Expressionless" it's kind of creepy but I liked the story you random people should look it up

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  • bemah

    Sounds a lot like the way people would describe me! Not that i don't have emotions or anything, it's just that i come off as someone who doesn't really give a fuck about anything. And of course that nothing seems to really bother or effect me in any way. I'm like immune to bullshit, i only ever give a fuck about what matters.

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    • eimoorpanda

      Yeh I amn't good at talking bullshit either I look for real friendships relationships :)

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  • qtpie

    She is just shy.Which is normal.As long as she is not harming anyone I wouldn't care.If you want to get involved and find out why she is behaving that way take her out or sit with her at lunch.Treat her normal.Try to make her laugh and open up to you.She may have a crush on you and can't express her feelings.

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  • crazyladii

    I get the same responses from people about having a blank look in my eyes. people have also told me that I stay in a daze. It's normal it just means she's constantly thinking. I myself always find myself dazed away in a mental setting, which can be anything from a convo at dinner, or a daydream of a scenario I'd like to happen. My mind is my best friend and worst enemy. It's maybe possible she's the same way. She's just discovering herself

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  • archery

    She doesn't seem like she has any disorder, maybe she's just a little space-y and prefers to think about things than to just blurt out whatever pops into her head. She sounds like a cool person.

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  • Flowers

    Personally I feel that it's not really a problem, no need to get worked up about it; she could just naturally be a pokerface.

    But if you're still worried, I think you should (with tact!) tell your friend what you think of her 'usual blankness', and see how she responds before you decide what to do next.

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  • almostunreadable

    Maybe she's in love in someone she can't have.

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  • Oli

    She could just not want to show any emotion.

    Or maybe had something traumatic in her life happen where now she can barely show them.

    And stop making her seem like a charity case.

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  • Mrar

    I hope you are a teenage boy if your girlfriend is a teenage girl! She may have been traumatized. I never used to show my emotions, and smiled a lot even when I was hurting, and it took years of therapy for my feelings and expressions to become normalized. It's also possible that she has a Dissociative Disorder like I do and doesn't feel connected to herself. That happens a lot with trauma.

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  • edapple

    It's normal. I have a blank face all the time.

    If she says she feels nothing, it's probably true. I share the same sentiments and qualities that she has: I am very capable of getting into deep conversations, I show people that I care about them through actions and kind words, yet I still feel nothing. Emotional movies do not interest me either; I remain unfazed.

    People consider me quiet because I do not engage in useless and nonsensical talk. Yet people find me very insightful since I tend to contribute meaningful ideas. I do show emotions but only when it is something worth to be upset about.

    A lot of women tend to flirt with me and usually either (1) I am oblivious to it (2) I am flattered but am usually not interested since I am not into hookup culture or into relationships. Only a few women have caught my attention and usually there is chemistry between us.

    Lastly, I also share with her a similar quality in that I might seem detached but I am actually very focused and am taking it all in.

    I think she is normal. As far as I know there is nothing wrong with me. Just be there and spend quality time with her and she will appreciate it.

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  • eimoorpanda

    I voted not normal,

    the reason I did this is I think there is no such thing as normal.

    Honestly I don't think anybody in society has the right to call themselves sane.

    Recently I had a meeting in work about a girl bullying me and singling me out.

    My manager and assistant manager were on my side.
    The girl sat there insulting me even though she was digging her own grave and the managers kept telling her she wont get anywhere in business with her attitude. They kept pointing out my strengths, I am good with clients etc. When asked why she doesn't speak to me she said I always have a blank expression on my face.
    This is because she couldn't attack my work which is good so she tried attack me personally. I am different which can be hard. If people make an effort with introverts its usually worthwhile and they appreciate it. This girl seems like my kinda girl. You should accept her for who she is,and tell her t embrace her weirdness there is too many sheep in the world she seems like a gamechanger! :)

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  • Introvert

    The thing about her being sick or having a disorder might not be true at all, or it just might be very mild. Some people just aren't that emotional and some just don't show their emotions. Although, I do admit this example is a bit etreme.

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  • Avant-Garde

    They often say that Psychopaths have no feelings in their eyes, but this doesn't mean that she's one. She might have some sort of neurological disorder. Has she seen therapists or a neurologist?

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  • Francophile22

    Perhaps she is on the autism spectrum and her exterior does not reflect her inner emotions.

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  • masterblaster1

    I think it may be chronic bitchface. There is absolutely nothing wrong, IMO, but it is very annoying when someone keeps bringing it up.

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    • eimoorpanda

      Its really annoying some people are just a bit a way with the faires you don't need to keep bringing t up and make them feel like a weirdo.

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  • Fidgety

    P-p-p-poker face.

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  • Satchmo

    This is normal there are different types of affects that people have one of the main types is flat. Which is exactly what your describing it doesn't mean she feels any less emotion than you do generally I find these people experience more emotion tehran really expressive people if you don't know what affect means look it up

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  • LooksLikeLove

    Too much botox probably!

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  • TempestuousDevilFish

    Definitely could be depressed. Could be she just as a stoic persona...

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  • Lysander

    i voted that it is not normal because it isnt although i am very much like her, my face is always blank and i am always thinking about what i hear or do and my friends joke that i am a serial killer or something but i just find it hard to express myself through movements or spoken words which is why i write. ask her to write something sometime and you will see that she has a soul and mind but they are just hidden deep inside her body.

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  • fishbowllover

    It sounds like Dexters biological sister

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Whoa! Reading this... made me think of myself. I was like that in high school. I had a friend who would point it out, and she did always ask me if anything was wrong and I'd always say the same thing; nothing. For a minute I kinda thought this was my friend talking about me. But then I saw when the comments were posted(2 months ago), I've been out of hs for way longer than that.

    I wouldn't worry about it, unless you actually do start to see signs of some kind of mental disorder, or she speaks of sadness or whatever. Her eyes might just seem deeper or something.

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  • DannyKanes

    She must be related to Lisa Fernandez from 92.9 fm

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  • ...Who gives a shit? :)

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