Is it normal that sex is not important for me in a relationship?

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I am a man and I like sex. However... I find it so trivial..

I hear that for many people sex is the most important thing in a relationship... and well... I just can't understand that... why?? I would prefer having bad sex all days rather than having nothing to talk about with my partner.

I know sex can make you feel nice and that it is a human need... however... I don't believe it makes my life in a whole any better. I could totally be with someone and be happy, even if we had terrible sex. In fact, most of my relationships were like that already.

And well, I just makes me sad to know that for so many people sex is "vital" for a relationship... Is it normal that I feel like this?

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Based on 28 votes (23 yes)
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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    I can agree to this.

    A good relationship with no sex is better than a bad relationship with sex.

    Relationship issues wouldn't be so common if people got into good relationships before worrying about sex instead of just starting a relationship with someone who's 'down to fuck'.

    If you're horny and you're not getting any, you could always fap.
    At least you're happy with your partner.

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    • Saycheese
      10 years ago

      Great answer! :)

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    Sex is an important cog in many people's lives for their vitality and wellbeing. You don't rate it highly, that's fine. You have found intimacy with your partner in other ways. Many people with high sex drives would place a higher value on the sexual intimacy of their relationship.

    I agree that the other factors are more important, with good sex being a bonus. However, I understand and appreciate the importance it holds for alot of people.

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  • udolipixie
    10 years ago

    It's normal if you're a straight male as you're not the one who is having his body penetrated and used. It's not unsurprising you could totally be with someone and be happy, even if we had terrible sex as terrible sex for most guys still results in them having an orgasm and you're still getting your sexual needs met. I doubt you could totally be with someone and be happy even if you guys didn't have sex.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Well if sex isn't important to you then you could just be friends. What defines a relationship in the first place is that sex is involved. I don't really know what bad sex is but it's lack of sex that'd bother me. Or a girl who doesn't like my dirty fetishes lol.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      In my opinion, what defines a relationship isn't sex. I believe what truly defines a romantic relationship is a higher level of intimacy that you share with no one else, which sometimes (well, most of the time) includes sex.

      For me, a romantic partner is someone you want to share your life with, someone that you trust more than no one else and someone that is always there for you.

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        10 years ago

        I share those things minus sex or living together with my best friend so I stand by what I said. I think you just have a very low sex drive.

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  • DandyElfman
    10 years ago

    I think we would be a lot better off if we could procreate in some other manner. We would have no rape, no pedophiles, no jealous rage over a cheating spouse. People would be a lot more civil and people in high school would not drop out since they decided to knock up some chick like a fucking moron. Sex is one of the biggest downfalls of mankind but in that same instance is the only thing keeping our species alive. If only we were able to evolve past such things and spread like flowers or like some fish. We would have a much better society. Face it we don't need sex beside procreation and it creates so many issues like STD, rape, pedos, infatuation,stalkers and cheating. When one of the biggest justifications is "Well it feels good" I don't think we can really argue that point. Oh I forgot one suicide and we would no longer have an issue of gay, straight or bi since sexuality is based on who you sleep with. Things would be perfect! Oh but sadly this is not a perfect world is it?

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    despite my number i'm the same. if i were faced with either/or i would give it up easily

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  • AntiSpark
    10 years ago

    a cock thrusting in an out in and out its quite violent

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