Is it normal that sex hurts me?

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Okay so I've had sex with only 2 people my whole life. I'm extremely particular about who I have sex with. I was celibate for a year up until I recently attempted with someone I have been dating on & off for about 2 years. Long story short, it was close to the worst pain of my life. It didn't feel good at all until the last 10 seconds when he finished. I've seen shows & things online about people with disorders that can't have sex because of internal problems & I'm considering that. Fingers feel amazing & I don't have the slightest bit of pain. I'm thinking that maybe its a mental block, or something in my head that won't let me enjoy it & hurts me terribly. Any type of guidance would help.

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  • AquaTurtle
    11 years ago

    I used to have the same problem. It was extremely painful even if he was as gentle as can be. This lasted maybe 10 times until I started to really feel comfortable with him and we found positions that worked.
    You definitely need to be relaxed when it happens, and turned on. The wetter the better. Go and buy some lube, it will help immensely. I don't recommend drinking alcohol beforehand, this will dehydrate you.
    Your doctor can give you an exam to determine if there is some sort of structural problem. Every vagina is different, they're not cars, they're individual :) I'd highly recommend going to the doctor for this, I asked a guy once and he was weirded out. I thought I had the same problem. My doctor just told me to try out a ton of positions until we found one that was good.
    Don't be embarrassed to experiment with pillows and moving your hips etc around. I found being on top easiest, and if he was on top I'd curve my back so my hips are facing up and not flat. I'd save doggy for later on, as I found that to be painful. Him behind you, spooning you is also good because it's comfortable, supportive and he can't get super deep.
    The most important thing is not to feel embarrassed or shy, and don't think you're abnormal. I was so mortified that I had sex a couple of times when it wasn't good at all and it just ruins it. Don't be afraid to change it up or tell him to slow down for a bit.

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  • spidercrowblaze18762
    11 years ago

    Put the whole fucking lubricant in ur cunt!!!

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Use lubricant.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    When you said "mental block", I immediately thought of vaginismus. It could be worth you doing a bit of reading about it, to see whether this is affecting you.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    I think having sex twice (as I think you meant?) That this may not constitute that something is wrong with you. Its quite possible that on both occasions there was not enough foreplay involved, and you weren't open and ready, physically speaking.

    Since masturbation is not a concern, then I would say that its not a medical condition, but rather bad or poor quality sex. Not uncommon for the first couple of times for everyone!

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