Is it normal that school is my only outlet for people?

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I talk to people at school, joke, discuss, all that regular stuff. But I have never being asked to go out somewhere. Not to a party, gathering or just to check something out. This has gone on since year 7, I'm a freak to them, the only reason they don't tease me or avoid me is because I tend to have bouts of depression (which really do show). I feel trapped, like I can never be myself in fear of people avoiding me and that's all it will be. Am I doing something wrong?

P.S I'm aware I sound like a loser.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I don't think you sound like a loser, but rather someone with a low self esteem, which a lot of people are good at hiding. To address the question let me just say that I've been in your shoes. At one time I made sure that I said the right things and didn't make anybody angry. One day I asked myself "Why do I care about what they think?" Precipitously over the next few months I began doing what I wanted. I don't need people to keep me happy and I don't think you need them either. Sane, however, is a different story. I think you should continue to be yourself but don't look so glum. If you want to hang out with people then ask them to hang out, don't wait for them to do so.

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  • YngPoly
    12 years ago

    Not exactly abnormal. I had extremely low self confidence when I was a teen (think none) looking back at pictures of myself I was more than good looking and could have been an art model. But I thought I was ugly and though I knew I was intelligent thought I was less than other people.

    It's funny because talking to people who knew me then their image of who and what I was is completely different than what my own image w of myself was. One thing that surprised me to find out was that people thought I was scary, I never yelled, didn't get angry, and would not defend myself if someone hit me. The reason people thought I was scary though was because I would beat the hell out of people who picked on people smaller than them (I was 130lbs at 17). That single fact probably saved me from more than 1 beating.

    You need to examine yourself. I am betting their is an incongruity between what you think of yourself and how others see you. People are telling you get some confidence but it's not that easy so here is a more doable suggestion, pretend. If you fake confidence long enough you wake up one day and realize your not faking it anymore. If someone turns you down dont let your disappointment show. Think of someone cool (I used a character in a novel) then ask "how would they act, and do that.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Same for a lot of people. Try to get alone and start sucking cocks. As many as you can. Let me know from time to time how you are doing.

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  • heyyyyyyy
    12 years ago

    Meap!!!

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  • freddo
    12 years ago

    Organise a party, gathering or something yourself and invite people

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