Is it normal that people say you should find someone at a certain age

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i am a 24 yr old women, who is not afriad to think for herself & i dont NEEd a man to make me happy at the end of the day, how ever, i have SO many people latley telling me how i should be in a relationship or married even, because im at a age where its almost going to be 'looked down'upon if i dont atleast persue a relationship being how pretty i am & givin my age factor (mid 20s).. idk if its just me BUT i feel this is such a stero type, i also dont party or go to clubs & so on, im very stable so maybe this is why people are saying this to me.. I am taking this time of being single as personal growth! but yet im scared & starting to feel is this maybe true? its not the issue im not open to a relationship i just havent found that right person yet.. but i have been havin people tell me ALL the time now how i should start to find someone by this age.... Is this really normal ?

yes- agree 10
no- disagree 23
I have a serious boyfriend at this age 7
i have not found anyone worthy yet 10
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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    Same here, lady. But out of personal experience... the ones who bug me the most about being single are the ones with the crappiest relationships. They're not exactly the right people when it comes to dating advice.

    I hate that double standard. Couples can constantly express their pity over single people. However, if we dare to point out to that they're constantly fighting and/or cheating, then we've gone too far.

    I know they don't mean it in a bad way, but still... Don't you hate people who think they've found true happiness, which supposedly gives them the authority to tell others how to live?

    Please don't pursue a relationship because you're "supposed to". Way too many people rush into these kind of things. They don't marry out of love, they marry because they're ashamed to be alone. There's a reason why most divorces occur after only three to four years...

    Btw, of course you don't need a man to be happy. That's the best starting point. If you ever want to share your life with someone, you should make sure that your life is a gift. Not a burden you need help carrying with.

    Phew, I sure can rant about this subject. Oh well, thanks for reading. :)

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  • 7even
    11 years ago

    You find someone when you're ready; your dating life doesn't have a deadline on it. Besides, if you're looking for a partner just because you feel pressured to have one, you're in it for the wrong reasons, and that's not fair to anyone involved.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    No, it's not normal. I'm 29 and perfectly happy to be single. It's a social norm (about raising a family and starting early, so you could have many kids)that needs to die out already. I can't stand kids and honestly, hate everything about marriage or long term relationships ('been in a few already), and it just pisses me off when people assume that I should get married just because "it's time".

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  • SLAYERoftheWICKED
    11 years ago

    just tell those people to FUCK OFF and let me live MY life.you will soon find "Mr.right"

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    People now adays are waiting longer and longer to get into a serious relationship, it's really not abnormal. I have had a point in my life where I was perfectly happy single, but mr.right came along when I least expected it, and now life isn't the same without him. I say wait, relationships aren't mandatory, just don't pass up the chance when it happens :)

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    When I was a little kid, some my family tried to instill the belief the when I was a certain age that I had to have about four kids and marry a man. I don't agree with that. I think people should be allowed to decide on their own without any pressure. One person's personal life is none of the other's business. It's your life, decide when you're ready.

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    • Avant-Garde
      11 years ago

      In terms of being with anyone, I've had friends rag on me allot about that. Saying that at my age, I should have someone by now. It's none of their business and I shouldn't have to feel like shit because I've never been in a relationship at my age. Let me live my life.

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    Girls are having kids and marriage much later now , think it's early 30's on average or somewhere around that so you've got nothing to worry about .
    I know people do still tend to have that view though ,in a way I think it is sort of good to have someone or " the person definitely by later 20's though if that's what she wants. The odds seem to shorten if she waits much longer .

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  • Aleks85
    11 years ago

    Way to make me feel shitty thanks lmao. I'm 26 and I don't have anybody.

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