Is it normal that people have unrealistically high expectations of me?

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I am from a good family. My father is a lawyer and my mother a doctor. My siblings are all geniuses and overachievers.

I have relatively good grades and I guess I am a normal person, with no bad habits or anything. However, I don't have that ambition that everyone else seems to have in my family. Also, unlike my siblings and my parents, I am not a genius, I am quite mediocre. But still, my family and everyone expects too much from me.

I don't want to be a doctor, engineer, lawyer or anything similar. I am more into the social sciences. I would like to be a journalist actually... but everyone is showing too much disappointment for this decision. People think that I should be a scientist or something... but I just don't like those things, and honestly, I am not smart enough.

My parents say that if I am not going to study anything "serious", I should at least study business and open my own company. But to be sincere, I don't want to have my own company... I just want to have a good job and be payed at the end of the month... I don't even care if I am rich or not.

I just wish that people stopped being so demanding with me. Not everyone was born to change the world, and I just wished people didn't expect so much from me.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago | pl

    I hate that, when people expect you to follow the footsteps of others. Create your own path with your own feet dang it.

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  • Unimportant
    10 years ago | pl

    Fuck 'em. It's your life.

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    • elenaki
      10 years ago

      Exactly what I was gonna say

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Me too...

        I only have this to add:

        It's hard, but in the end, it's all there is.

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  • SillyKitty55
    10 years ago

    stop caring of what others think of you.
    My brother expects me to live like him and I don't even make 1/3 of what he makes in one month.
    He makes over 10 grand a month for his job.
    I have no degree and makes mediocre $1000 or less a month
    He expects me to just go out and "purchase" things as if I have money like he does. He expects me to make plans like he does to live my life.
    He thinks I am living my life in a low degrading type of way.
    I am addicted to cats. Animals I love cats especially. I can say that having pet cats is my drug because they keep me calm, and happy.
    My brother who has a degree from Berkeley, was a drug abuser and still is sort of. He is also a raging alcoholic and still is even after getting his 3rd DUI and being jail.
    He still drinks and smokes weed, and I don't know what else he might do.
    He has issues with himself because he can't get over his x girlfriend whom of which he has not been with for over 3 years now. He never picks up after himself and expects someone to clean up after him 24:7. He complains about our apartment being dirty just after I cleaned it inside and out.
    I am a single mother, paying my share of rent. I have a 6 pound chihuahua and one 7 pound cat.
    I work everyday and my child is in school.
    I don't complain about my life, I am not unhappy with my own life.
    My dad still puts me down and so does my mother.
    They act that my addiction to animals is more horrible than my brother landing himself in jail and getting 3 DUI (and being an alcoholic)

    I am 28 years now.
    My brother is 29 going on 30 in September.
    I think just by telling you about a little about my life, and his, you can see who is a more together person,responsible, and a decent human being.
    Quite frankly I do not give a shit what anyone thinks anymore of me and how i live my life.
    I AM ME, I ACCEPT MYSELF A WHO I AM. This is all that matters to me!
    I am happy and so are my animals, and my daughter is happy and she is allowed to be herself at all times!

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    • Holzman67
      10 years ago

      I bet it felt good getting that off your chest.

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  • changes123
    10 years ago

    Generally, when I start worrying about impressing others, and meeting their expectations, that's when I do my absolute worst. Why don't you start by taking some classes in social sciences? or Journalism? See where that takes you. But if you also want to please your parents, then take at least one science class, or business. Then you can truly say that you tried their path, but it didn't work out. The beautiful thing about school is, you have the freedom to choose whatever path you like. In the end, you might choose one that you could have never imagined!

    I can't say I relate to where you're coming from, but I can understand about having unrealistic pressure on you. "Become a doctor," "No, a Dentist is better," " Reasearcher! Researcher!" Pffft. Nooo... I do what I want. It's your future.

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  • Fabulous
    10 years ago

    Ball so hard motherfuckers wanna find me first niggas gotta find me

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Do what you enjoy doing. If everyone followed this advice they would be happy but most people have no idea what makes them happy and they often feel pressured by the opinions of others to follow a certain path.

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  • braintrip
    10 years ago

    Yeah i'm stupid too lmao.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    When your family sees you happy at doing what you do best and with all you effort they will find Joy! That is all they want, really, is for you to be happy! They are just afraid that you are selling yourself short. Good luck with your choices!

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  • _Molotov_Cocktail_
    10 years ago

    Some people once had unreasonably high expectations of me. I gave them high. About 50 meters up in the air to be precise, with their clothes reduced to carbon and shards of Molotov cocktail shrapnel protruding from their backsides. They never had high expectations of anyone ever again. They died.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Have you tried talking to them?

    If you have i'm sorry thats all i got.

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  • herecomestheasshole
    10 years ago

    You are very beautiful girl inside I know that your kind and important to your family people make fun of me all the time and I just say I know you are but what I'm I be happy that god made you just remember that they don't have nobody else to bully becuase that know they are gonna get there but kicked and that say that becuase your to kind to but brave I follow this and you'll be good

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    • DangerousPotatoGuy
      10 years ago

      whoa your screen name goes different ways with your comment

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