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Some people say they'll never get married but then they end up doing it when they're older. Are they normal? Why would they say "no" then do the opposite and say "yes" to marriage a few years later? It doesn't make sense.
Are they not allowed to change their mind? Especially when given new information on the subject.
It has been shown in recent years that 80% of marriages end in divorce. I do not see how that new information is aiding anything?
That's not true. In the US, the rate that's frequently quoted is 50%, but even that is higher than reality. The divorce rate is actually closer to 40%. Where did you even here that?
Think about it. If 80% of marriages ended in divorce, then most people you know would either have divorced parents or be divorced themselves. Unless you meet all your friends at divorcee social clubs, his obviously isn't the case. Maybe you should look up statistics before you post them, or at least think about them a little harder.
That is my point. Everyone I have known comes from divorced family and or divorced themselves. Almost all the people in my family and friends family as divorced. I started seeing it when I was 8 and it seemed to become more frequent as I grew up. Also no these are people I met growing up and that I have known for a couple of years from when they are younger. They are not all going to bars getting high like you think. Also that was the statistic posted when I checked. They have done a couple of studies on this.
How do you know? Did that statistic come specifically from people who said they would never marry, got married, and then got divorced. I highly doubt it.
I had a close friend who said he would never marry. He was a womanizer since he was 15. Dating girls in there 20s and 30s. He used too go to clubs and get every girl. He was the life of the party.
Where is he now?
... Dead.
Gf caught him cheating. Shot him and the bitch he was with :^|
I miss you marcus.
Are you foreal?
I'm so sorry but the way you typed that shit had me lmfao.
Sorry to hear about your friend, but he'd probably rather be dead then married.
I expect it's usually because they are young and haven't yet met the person they go on to marry.
I like the idea of having a party and celebrating a long and successful relationship, so I'm not anti-marriage. But any marriage I have I'd hope would be secular, unconventional and fun. If I never get married I doubt I'll care.
Yeah, that totally doesn't make sense because all the kids I went to school with who said they wanted to be firemen, dinosaurs, doctors and ballerinas all grew up to become exactly that. Oh, wait....no they didn't!
Fucking kids, man. They're all lairs! Every last one of 'em!
Oh they did not lie. They just changed their minds. Op does not understand the simple action of changing your decision. This is not surprising behavior. Also when some people say they will never marry it might be Bad experience or they thought no one would ever want to.
peoples minds change. theyre opinion probably changed when they either found that one they want to settle with and/or they realize they cant keep this attitude up, or they could end up old and lonely. my uncle was like this, until last year. of course, a little encouragement from the(now)wife did have help him towards that end, so I cant say it was entirely his decision.
well, he did love her enough to get married, so I guess it was what he wanted.
Hahaha.
I knew a guy that worked for the NYPD that swore for many many years that he would never marry. He was a straight up ladies man, clubbed on weekends, had a different woman in his bed every so often and so on and so forth. He thought that the idea of marriage was stupid and only an idiot would entrust his finances and life to a woman.
What's he doing now, you ask? Oh, he is living with his wife in her native country.
We love to have ideals and make definite statements. They are the staples and foundation of who we are and our beliefs.
But life happens.
Most people think they will never marry because they never thought they would find the right person. Or they never even considered there was the right person out there. Like they say, there's someone for everyone, and this person you're talking about (I'm assuming) Must have found the person who was right for them :) They did the right thing and decided to never let them go. It's not so unusual.
My mind has always been the same for many years and I still believe it is the answer.
For most people it is about timing. If marriage doesn't make sense at 25, it doesn't mean it won't make sense at 50.
I don't want to marry, so I'll get back to you when I'm 100 to tell you whether I did or not.
I don't think I will ever get married as I don't really see the point of it. Though I know that I may change my mind later in life.
I'm currently going through a separation at the moment and I can tell you it has a much profound effect on your life than falling in love.
It's like a earthquake rocked your house and you are left to pick up the pieces off the floor, you spend hours/days/months/years trying to glue tiny pieces back together. I understand why some people don't want to get married, that ultimate fear of being put through the pain again.
The broken-home feeling that a separation causes is indeed one of the most intense and awful ones we may have to face in a lifetime, I completely agree. I should know.
But I think you are speaking of being remarried rather than just married. Those who've never been married don't really know what that earthquake is to not want to relive it.
However, they don't know how wonderful it is, or can be, to share a life and yourself with a person/s you love either. Because even if it has been shattered, it existed. And probably made you happy for a while.
Disclaimer: I'm not in any way endorsing marriage or remarriage.