Is it normal that people bond by having me as a common "enemy"?

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I have lots of friends. They usually share something in common, they like to make fun of me and to disagree with me. This doesn't bother me that much, since I know deep inside they don't have bad intentions.

However... I notice that the lack of conflict within my friends relies on the fact that I am everyone's common "enemy". The few times I was away from my group, differences between my friends made conflict arise. Also, whenever I ask my friends to stop picking on me, they start fighting more with each other...

I don't know... I don't mind if being "bullied" by my friends, if that will make our group to be stronger... However, I just wanted to know if anyone else ever had a similar situation.

So, is this normal?

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Based on 20 votes (13 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Your situation reminds me of mine....except that I have no friends.

    The sad fact of the matter is that it's just human nature. People need a villain; someone to rail against. And if they can't find one, they create one.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      <3

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    • braintrip
      10 years ago

      make that 2 friends =D

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      So true... no pun intended

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      • RomeoDeMontague
        10 years ago

        They had a episode of family guy explaining this. It was a meg episode. Her entire family used her to take the dysfunction out on. No this is not normal and are not healthy group dynamics. However this is how my family was. So it is not unheard of. The group is not stronger with you in it. It is filled with dysfunction and you just happen to be the one they take it out on. The way to make your group stronger is for them to face and resolve the issues they all have with each other.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      you have one friend \(^_^)/

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