Is it normal that no one understands how introversion works?

I have been an introverted person through all my life.

When I was little I always felt different because of this and I tried really hard to be with people as much as I could to be accepted. But whenever I tried to get my own space, everyone always told me that it is "bad" not to be around people all the time. However, after certain age I just started accepting myself and actually doing what I truly wanted.

I try to explain people that I am introverted and that I just want time for myself. I don't hate anyone, I like having friends, I like being with people, I like parties and I like having fun with others. I just like having time alone as well. I can't explain why, but having time dedicated exclusively for me is very important to me.

I wish people understood me better. Even my best friends are leaving me behind because they believe that "I don't care" enough about them. I don't know, people just seem to be so narrow-minded. Is this normal?

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Based on 47 votes (38 yes)
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Comments ( 9 )
  • Tommythecat.

    Some people need more alone te than others, it's a fact. People aren't really being narrow minded it's just that it is very difficult for people to relate to traits they do not share to the same extent.

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  • SavageScience

    Introversion is normal. How can anyone have doubts about it?

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    • Well, but many do. Most people think introverts are antisocial, shy or awkward.

      It really depends on the culture. But in general, westerners praise extroversion and discourage introversion. Society imposes that it is "normal" to want to be with as many people as possible and it is weird to be a "loner".

      If a person doesn't want to go out all the time or if someone just prefers to stay home to read, people inmediately think that person is abnormal.

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      • SavageScience

        I'd say a behaviour is not normal only if it affects the person or those around him negatively. Like psychopathy, depression, etc. Someone has to suffer if s person has these traits. Introversion? It doesn't hurt anyone. It should be obvious that it's normal.

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  • howaminotmyself

    http://iwastesomuchtime.com/on/?i=63454

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    • I know this comic already, and I think it is good. But again (by reading the comments) I think people get the wrong idea of what really means to be introverted.

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    • Shackleford96

      I like that :)

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  • Mersaphe

    I'm introverted myself and don't know how introversion works. I don't try to explain or justify it, it just is and it exists

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  • college

    Chances are many people on this site, including myself, are well versed in introversion and share your pain.

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