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I'm turning 18 in 2 weeks and I'm a little desperate because I've never dated a boy, never kissed, never anything. Not even approaching or trying to flirt. I mean, no boy likes me!
I feel bad... I don't know if it's my appearance or personality.
It could be for various reasons, we can't ascertain which from your post.
There are plenty of people in your position. This site is apparently full of them (I remember a while ago compiling all of the 'is it normal I'm [insert age] and have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend?' questions and believe me there are a lot).
My advice is hang out with more boys / expand your social life, try and be (or at least appear to be) relaxed, initiate conversation or flirting, try and build a natural and genuine connection with a guy rather than forcing something - then ask him on a date. If no guys you're interested are interested in you, don't just settle for somebody out of desperation. There's seriously no rush.
Must be how you look... Either too fugly either so hot that guys are scared to be rejected.
You should try asking someone out. And stop putting yourself down. They might see that you're not confident, and thats why the fish aren't biting. Low self esteem isn't an attractive trait in anybody. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and get out there. Sometimes you have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Don't always leave it up for them. Good luck!
same here, I don't know when I'm going to have my first kiss...I am quite pretty you could say, and can't recall ever being asked out properly. Like guys usually do it by asking one of their mates to ask me out. I'd rather it be face to face with the guy that actually wants to go out with me, perhaps guys are just too shy plus they don't want the possibility of being rejected.
Join the club with me, I'm in the same terms and I just feel frustrated with myself because of that. I'm turning 18 in a feew months and I'm scared of that day because I feel hopeless, I feel like I should have already done those things. I don't know if it happens with you to but all of my girl friends have or had boyfriends and i'm the only one who never had so that doesn't help my selfesteem. However, I'm kinda relieved to know that someone feels the same way... The best of luck to you, you're really pretty and i hope you find a nice guy :)
Do keep in mind that a lot of boys your age are shy and socially awkward. It is a safe bet that if you are interested in a guy you could get his attention, convey your interest, and reel him in with your feminine wiles.
You look fine in your picture. To be honest, you don't look overtly feminine but you're not the Hunchback of Notre Dame either.
Have you tried asking any guys out?
It's hard to tell without a picture. Guys get hit on way less than girls because it's expected for guys to do the approaching, and I'm a guy and I've been asked out by quite a few girls, I never had to do the approaching but the date never actually led anywhere serious and we didn't have sex (I'm still a virgin). I don't know why you haven't been asked out. If you're very attractive or at least attractive, I'd say it's probably not normal. If you're ugly then unfortunately it probably is. Hardly any girl is ugly though, and if they are it's usually if they make themselves look like crap. Maybe try putting some effort into your appearance?
I'm confused now. Maybe it's just the picture but you're actually very pretty and if you don't mind me saying quite hot. I don't know why you haven't been asked out. Maybe it's your confidence.
Hah well thank you. I have to say that I do have confidence issues. I don't know what do to to feel more confident about my self.
I think you look feminine enough. Maybe a little nerdy with the big glasses, but some guys like that sort of thing. It's nerdy-hot. You can pull it off if you're attractive enough which you are. I don't know what to say about your personality because I don't know you but you seem nice enough on the internet.
I think it's just confidence issues like you said. I don't think you have major confidence issues so I won't bother giving you loads of tips and advice because I don't think you need it, and well, I'm not that confident myself either.
You just don't feel you're attractive enough, which is strangely common with a lot of pretty girls so you're not alone. Once you feel attractive then you should have the confidence, and then you'll become approachable.
When I was in High School, a lot of my female friends were in your situation. It's not that uncommon. It'll probably change once you're eightteen, since people in college are generally more comfortable in their skin than teenagers, and thus more likely to ask a girl out.
It may not be anything negative about you, but rather just circumstance. If you're shy then you probably don't talk to/hang out with a lot of guys so there's no opportunity to ask you out. Or maybe you're confident, which makes them assume you're taken or above their level. I wouldn't fret about it though - save yourself the drama of relationships for as long as possible.
I don't know you IRL so couldn't give you more info than that.