Is it normal that niether of the two guys i've been with can jizz?

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Sorry, it's kind of a long story >.<

My first boyfriend and I had a very intense relationship - we spent a year together and we never had sex because it was a bit of a sensitive subject - but whenever we did foreplay, even for around an hour, he never ejaculated. We broke up because he thought it was my fault. I was told this was rubbish by everyone else but it's effected my confidence a hell of a lot, as you can imagine.

Finally, I plucked up the confidence to be intimate with another person - my new boyfriend. We've had sex about three times and we've done a lot of foreplay as well, but he can't jizz either! I looked at porn and other things and i don't think i'm doing it wrong - but can it really be a coincidence that of the two guys i've been with, neither of them can jizz with me?

They could both ejaculate when they masturbated, but if i was involved it doesn't seem to work. My currect boyfriend gets erections and pre-cums a hell of a lot, but i've never been able to bring him to a complete orgasm. I feel like a complete failure - is it my fault or is there something wrong biologically? Is this normal for a virgin when all i ever seem to hear is that guys jizz really quickly when they've never done this before? :\

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  • Gelmurag
    12 years ago

    People think guys are usually horny all the time. Although guys tend to think about sex a lot, there is a difference between mental horny and physical horny. Some guys (not all, some) require a very strong focus in order to get off, where something as simple as a fly buzzing in the room could cause him not to cum. And sometimes it goes "numb" it still feels ok, but it isn't enough to cause orgasm. My first time with a girl, and second time with a boy my nerves took over and nothing worked. My guess is, your finding guys that aren't in it mentally, or are going "numb." I eventually learned to relax, but any new partner and it takes me time to get to the relaxed stage again.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    Sex tips from porn... I lol'd.

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  • Ark
    12 years ago

    It's called D E (delayed ejaculation ) its not your fault basically a man grips himself to tightly during masturbation the nerves in his penis become dull from it. a woman's vagina can never grip as hard as a hand and w/o the added pressure he can't finish. If he completely stops masturbating for about 3 weeks(HARD TO DO) the nerves will become sensitive again .

    -source what the sex doc told me after I lasted 2 hours my first time having sex

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  • letsgetiton623
    12 years ago

    They smoke weed alot dont they?

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    It probably is performance anxiety, if you're nervous or over-analyse then this can happen. Alternatively it could easily be a technique thing on your part, you should ask your bf to show you how he masturbates, he can teach you how to get him off. That sounds quite fun actually, and should solve whatever problem it is.

    Seems a bit silly that either of you would have wanted to break up because of it though, but at least you're with a guy who you like now.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    My ex-girlfriend went out with two people like this. I think it was psychological on their part. Either performance anxiety or something deeper-rooted.

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  • MagickWithoutTears
    12 years ago

    That seems a wee bit odd, I think.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    are their eyes open or closed?

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