Is it normal that my wife seems to be not wanting sex?

One day me and my wife came home from work. We were both stressed out , so we decided to go out for dinner. We went to the Oliver Garden , had a few drinks , and then ate. When we got home we were both pretty drunk and were just tired. But we decided to have sex. The night it felt great. My wife has even started to want to have it more (Which in my oppinon is an improvement , because she rarely had it with me for months.). The next day we did it agian. It felt ok , but not as good. And then when it got to the 4th day she did'nt respond sexually as much , and seemed bored. She even stopped awnsering texts and calls from work. Is this a normal thing?

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44% Normal
Based on 124 votes (54 yes)
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    What you need to do is COMMUNICATE.

    And by communicate I don't mean texting her at work or asking "why won't you have sex, what's wrong with you?"

    That will just pull her defenses UP, not down.

    What you should do instead is find out what's happening at work, why she's tired. Be interested in her day and let her open up.

    You may also want to consider planning a nice relaxed night. No booze, just candles and soft music and resting. It doesn't have to be about getting laid ... it might happen, but it might not. The main goal is to get back in harmony with her.

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  • EzioAuditore

    I think you know yourself that it's not normal, and like the other guys said try to spice it up...try sth kinky, change positions frequently during sex, and also try to have more foreplay cause I tried that with someone, we did a LOT of foreplay, and it totally altered our sex that night... And also go search for stuff on the internet... Good luck, dude.

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    ..and another reason why I won't get married. Don't wanna be stuck in this kinda situation where I'll be bored looking at my then, average looking wife and not being able to do things I'd normally be able to do. Bachelor for life!

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  • Nitti

    Change up positions my friend. Where a sombrerro and sing spainsh love songs. (for real) she might like that one haha. This is part of marriage.
    Sadly, it's normal, so do somthing about it!

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  • KimmyKhaosXD

    go to a sex shrink, I heard they fix wonders! lol.

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  • castrojg

    After having a decent dinner with her husband, she felt things were a bit different than the normal "nothingness".
    If "sex" is always a quick-ie, where the one who is quick-ly pleased is You, then why would you think she would look forward to sex? Don't forget that a woman needs more time for pleasure (orgasm) than a man. A good amount of women love foreplay and it doesn't mean play with her for 4 seconds...
    Try talking to her. Ask her about what she wants in bed, when she answers, let her know that you are interested in pleasing her. Ask her, when engaged intimately, to guide you where and how to please her, believe me, it will work. It did for me... at one time... Hope it works for you and your wife, just don't let it go unsolved...

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  • shadowz132

    have u ever thought that maybe when u an her went to olive garden that she had sex with u because maybe she wants to spend more time with u and go out and have fun with u instead of being bored

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  • feelinglikeroadkill

    Maybe she isnt responding to you because your not pleasing her.If she already knows she is not ganna get pleased, if you know what I mean the sex is ganna become a chore for her, and yea pretty boring.I can tell you, my husband pleases me and I know I am ganna get mine, so more times then not I am the one wanting it. So iF she knows that, everytime you go to bed at night I bet she will be right behind you.

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  • willchr2004

    dont look into it dude. Your married, she is yours. Google search how to make sex more interesting. Please note, sex doesnt have to follow after a nice dinnner. Especially if your married so dont go taking her out to make up for something you havent done. Spice if up a bit, just sex can be boring, tease her and give a bit of head (excuse the crudeness)

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  • mieoux

    Is she on the pill? Most formulations of the birth control pill reduce a woman's sex drive. The pill can destroy a woman's sex-drive and sometimes even permanently. (Google it to read the studies.)

    I suspect this might have to do with why a lot of people stop having sex when they get married, they switch from condoms to the pill.

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  • city.kitty

    sometimes women just dont like sex that much. It is normal

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  • QueenB

    She is bored, happens with almost all marriges - try and spice it up a little.

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  • bazwell

    It seems that you and your wife responded excitedly to the novelty of the situation on the first night, but it seemed to have less of an effect there after. It is possible that your wife (and possibly, you) are feeling bored in your matrimony. I must stress that this is a quit common occurrence in most marriages. The solution? Finding new and exciting ways to keep the spark that you've spoken of seeing and enjoying. Do new things, be romantic and corny, surprise her, tell her how much she means to you...show her. Leave her messages written and otherwise, that she is likely to find and on each, tell her why you're lucky to have her in your life. You already know that she (and you) respond well to novelty, so keep it up. I suspect that by taking care of this aspect of the relationship, the bedroom will also be spiced up with new activities and props. Stay open!

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