Is it normal that my wife is a lesbian and she still married me???

My wife and I are in our mid-thirties and have been married since our mid-twenties. We are partners at the same law firm and we have a great relationship. We both like to travel and neither of us ever wanted children so it's the both of us and our travel and social life. We make great money and our lives were perfect!

Then, a few months ago, she told me that she has been carrying out an affair with the intern! The intern, who is about her age, was one of her friends in college and they hooked up a few months before our wedding. When we got married, they broke up but the relationship picked back up when she applied for the internship. She was hired based on her credentials, btw. She's a great intern.

She admitted this to me and told me that she has never been attracted to men and feels horrible for leading me to believe that she was. She said she enjoyed having sex with me but it was not as enjoyable as having sex with this woman because she is not physically attracted to me. She said that she wants to continue being my wife and continue our life together, but she needs that sexual release that comes with being with a woman. She claims that she still loves me but she needs to fill her needs to and would understand if I wanted to leave her and she would conduct the divorce amicably but I don't feel a need. She's still MY wife, after all and I trust that she will stay within her limits.

Because I am a pervert, I asked if I could, err... watch. She miraculously agreed and told me that she is willing to do whatever would make me feel comfortable with continuing our marriage!

For some reason, I don't feel too bad about this. is it normal for a lesbian to marry a man?

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39% Normal
Based on 130 votes (51 yes)
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Comments ( 36 )
  • Unimportant

    Ross?

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  • Justsomejerk

    I believe congratulations are in order.

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  • Well it's not "normal" but if it's not upsetting you & yoo feel okay with it, then it dosnt really matter (: x

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  • I don't see the point of lesbians, they don't fuck guys so what use are they.

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    • lateboy1

      I don't see the point of your stupid ass comment, your a fucking idiot so what use are you.

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      • Well i said something honest, it also made someone angry. Theres two things.

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      • You mean "you're" a fucking idiot.....you idiot!

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        Its ok his parents are probably mom and son so he came out kind of stupid. We should help this child not yell at them. Its probobly not his fault he was born with such a dysfunctional brain.

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    • RomeoDeMontague

      That is like asking the point of gay guys..I guess people have other desires beside procreating. Its those peoples choice. Besides we are already overpopulated in a lot of places not to mention the orphans.

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  • Salina12

    She's bisexual

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  • bigfatdick4

    I personally think that your feminine side is what won her over, you must have a nice vagina, do you like using make up? Do you love having exfoliating massages? Do you regularly have your cuticles preened? Do you wax your forearms, pubic area and legs?

    Your wife married you because you look and act like a girl!

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  • xXScYtHeXx

    I... Just.. I'm... Congrats, why can't this be me?!

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  • a marriage made in heaven

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  • Brokenpebbles

    Well... that is considered cheating.

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  • GuessWho

    I thought the whole reason lesbians marry men is to have kids...

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  • lateboy1

    Dude jump in there don't just watch, she has to let you do it she lied to you, or get another girl and have an open relationship I'm not sure what those relationships are called plyosomething??? But your lucky dude

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    • I mentioned it. She told me to wait a little while because it's all so new for us anyway.

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      • lateboy1

        Nice man, if this works out for you, just be happy, don't let other people make you feel bad, as long as your happy and your wife is happy you don't need anything else, just don't get hurt man, hope you make the right decision. Wish you the best.

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    • BurnaBaby27

      Polygamy maybe?

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      • lateboy1

        Yea I think that's it, I don't see anything wrong with it If both partners are ok with it..

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        • BurnaBaby27

          I agree. It's not for everybody though.

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  • Zippy

    I think it's pretty messed up of her to have lied to you like this for so long. I can definitely say that my reaction to this situation would not have been the same. However, if it doesn't bother you and you're even kind of enjoying it, then more power to you. Aside from that big lie and the lack of attraction, you guys seem to have a good relationship. Just go with whatever makes you happy.

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    • I wanted to be angry and she admitted that she deserved it but we have a great life and a great relationship. And the sex is great too. I just don't see where I lose here.

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  • CrazyButBeautiful

    Ur marriage is far from tradional, but i wouldnt say that its abnormal. Actually I think ur marriage is ideal. Ppl are too consumed with wanting to place ppl into categories, i.e. ur wife likes women so she must be a lesbian, which means ur being used. I am sure this is not the case, considering my own relationship. Ive been with my guy for 10 yrs. I love him, we get along great, and I do consider him to be one of my best friends. Our sex life is amazing. However, i am also attracted to women and once in a while I have to...have some fun. If he really wanted me to stop, I would. I couldnt live without him, he's the person I want to spend my life with. But women are sooo sexy. The key is honesty, and if ur both okay with it, then there's NP.

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  • BlueAlice

    You are SO LUCKY!

    I would kill to be in your wife's situation right now... and to have a husband like you, even though I'm anti-marriage.

    I guess it must be a bit of an unconventional set-up, but it's OK as long as all three of you are happy.

    If one of you becomes unhappy at any point, though... SAY SOMETHING.

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  • Anime7

    I don't think this is normal. However, it seems like she's a great person to still want to be with you and let you watch. As she said she want's the physical release. I think her affair with this other girl is just that, and she truly loves you. I think that your in a very good situation actually.

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  • Avant-Garde

    This is very interesting.

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  • Imsupernormal

    Totally not normal. She is obviously a closet lesbian and just using you to keep her secret. The relationship will not last.

    What if it was the other way around a straight woman married to a gay man. You would be saying "Hell no! Break up!"

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    Absolutely not normal in any sense. That being said, as long as your comfortable with the situation, it could be worked to GREAT advantage for you. See how it goes!

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  • milkymum

    my bf and his mates loves seeing me with my female mate making out, guys love seeing it. If shes willing to let you see hem do it and still lay on her back for you then she still does love you. so make the most of it!!

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    • disthing

      I don't love seeing it and I'm a guy.

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  • janetsauce

    Normal? No. But it's not terrible :p

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  • anti-hero

    If she is still fucking you, what do you care?

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    • Doesn't matter to me if she prefers apples but will still eat oranges. Just wondering if this happens often. I love her to death and in my archaic way of thinking I dont feel threatened by another woman.

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      • RomeoDeMontague

        She is lesbian and married a man... Do you really need to ask? Kind of should explain itself. If she is a lesbian she is probobly trying to cover it up by being with you.

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      • anti-hero

        I have heard of such things happening not normal, but you are not the only one.

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