Is it normal that my twin brother choked me?

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I was one of the few people that were blessed to have an identical twin in life. He is my best friend and I wouldn't trade him for the world. I don't know if anyone else with a twin feels this or if it's real or not, but I definatly feel a kind of twin telepathy thing with him because when he's hurt I feel hurt too, and I hate it when the two of us are seperated. We've always had a lot in common and shared the same interest, and in high school, we didn't get along with that many kids (we were deemed the weird ones). Only we understood each other. I've seen him cut himself before, and I helped him cope just like he helps me when I'm down. We went through a lot together which is why I can't comprehend what happened the other night.

We room together in an apartment, and I was always the one paying rent because he didn't get job until a few weeks back (I was never too hard on him for not having a job because I know he's always had problems, socially, and he's very awkward around people). Well, the other night he came home from his new job and he breaks news to me that he got fired. He said something about a customer pissing him off and he was fired for offending them. Maybe I shouldn't have, but I got really pissed off. I yelled at him in his face, something I never do, and it eventually turned into a physical fight. Before I knew it he was on top of me, and he had his hands around my throat, and he was actually choking me to the point that I couldn't breath. The look in his eye scared me shitless. It was like he really wanted me dead. I didn't know what to do. If my younger brother hadn't came by, I sometimes think he wouldn't have stopped. And when I asked him, he even said it was because he wanted to kill me. I mean, I asked him again this morning, and he said he was just pissed and that he was sorry, but I was literally afraid to sleep last night. I don't know. He's been having a lot of problems lately. I think he's going through some kind of depression, and maybe he just needs to relieve some stress. I want to help him, though, and I feel bad for yelling at him because I know he's got problems, but it just pissed me off that he lost his job over such a ridiculous reason. I guess, mostly, I'm worried about the relationship between me and my brother.

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  • Wambo37
    11 years ago

    :( he was angry...I voted not normal because I dont think its normal getting that physical and emotional( "he said he wanted to kill you) over anger. Not saying he has anger issues but thats his level of anger wich varies from person to person.

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    • DannysUsername
      11 years ago

      I noticed he's been having a lot of problems, lately. I think that it lead to his violence. I wouldn't say he has anger issues, but he's always been a little weird, but I'm not blaming him for it because I don't consider myself that "average" either. He's said things to me that always kind of bothered me like he was supposed to be the only one born. I think he just says that to piss me off, though, like when we fall out. He's never actually choked me before, and I don't know if he was serious or not.

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      • Wambo37
        11 years ago

        well if it was serious or not can be hardly telln because, he was in a high state of anger :/ if he has a lot of problems and youre not very sure I suggest some bonding between you. (except if his problems are "non of your buisness") :) find out what bothers him. He could be really depressed or angry and no one can tell. Who knows it happens, but im just suggesting I dont know the exact situation...

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        • DannysUsername
          11 years ago

          He's always been kind of moody in a sense. I think maybe we do need to just go out, bond and maybe do something we used to do a lot when we were younger. I know that time and age can change things. I can't really tell if he's depressed or what. He doesn't really talk much and I'm the only person he ever says anything to, for the most part. But lately he hasn't talked to me, he just sits there like he's got something on his mind or whatever, and it's like he doesn't want me around, sometimes. I think the strangling thing goes beyong the job incident. I think he's angry about something else whether it's related to me or not. It just doesn't seem right that he would do that, that's all. I mean, he's said some creepy things before (we both do when we get mad) but he never seemed to mean it until last night.

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  • DestineyAlabama
    11 years ago

    I understand him its hard to keep anger under control. There is a source that is making him feel this way. I suggest you find the source and try to help him solve the problem.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Blessed is not how i'd think of it. I would fucking murder an identical twin for stealing my identity. There can only be one!

    Your brother is wise to this, kill him, kill him quickly before he murders you in your sleep!

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  • Boo!
    11 years ago

    I'd suggest moving out even in anger who actually tries to choke family, says he wanted to kill you and to top that off tells you he should have been the only one born? Maybe in his mind he thinks your taking what he should have had and if you werent there life would be better. You cant change people and how do you know he's not really serious? I'd keep it safe and leave.

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    • DannysUsername
      11 years ago

      It's just, he's always been, like, my best friend. We've been through a hell of a lot together, like when we were kids it was always just him and me. Nobody else seemed to understand us. He was the only one who understood me and I was the only one who understood him. I know he's always had a kind of "odd" personality, but I've always been kind of the same too. And I know that we're older now, and things are pretty different. In some ways, I feel like I've matured more than him, you know, as far as getting a job and going to college. Lately, he's been a bit alienated from me, but ...I don't want to think that he would feel that way.

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      • Boo!
        11 years ago

        Bonding might do the trick but him choking you for a silly reason like that isn't normal. Be cautious. He probably has feeling you dont know or understand that have been swelling up inside. Hatred can grow more fiercely with those that are closest or maybe its jealousy.

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        • DannysUsername
          11 years ago

          Yeah; you might be right. Thanks!

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          • Boo!
            11 years ago

            You're welcome.

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