Is it normal that my teenage son has sex in public?

I'm a single father of three teenage boys (they're 18, 17 and 15 years old). My 18 year old son is still in high school, and has been partying a lot lately. I recently found out that at one of the parties he had been to, he had been drinking and having sex in a room full of people.

One of his friends came up to me because he says he was concerned with how my son was behaving. He told me that at the party, a small group of them went upstairs to one of the bedrooms. They had been drinking, and my son was dared to doing something with on of the girls in the group. My son and one of the girls started making out, then suddenly they both got naked on the bed, and started having sex in front of the entire group. My son's friend said that while they were having sex, the room quickly filled up about 30 to 40 other students watching them and cheering them on. He even showed me a video on his phone, of my son getting oral sex and having sex with the girl doggy style on the bed, while the room was filled with people cheering him on.

Is this normal teenage behavior at parties, or should I talk to my son? I figured since he's 18, he's old enough and these things aren't a big deal anymore.

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Based on 80 votes (44 yes)
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Comments ( 17 )
  • Short4Words

    Why did you watch. You obviously stuck around long enough to get to the doggy style part...

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  • VirgilManly

    Doesn't everyone get drunk and fuck in front of 40 strangers while someone shoots video?

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    • spunkluvr

      No, I don't need to get drunk!

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  • I don't really think is is normal behavior then again this decision was probably solely based and influenced by alcohol. What is unfortunate is that it was recorded and that can't be erased. He's probably going to look back on this down the road and be embarrassed and regretful. I definitely think you should talk to him. If he continues on with the behavior then yea, that's on him.

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  • Blade884

    What friend would tell his friend's father such a thing...

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  • Diaperdean

    There is only about 100 different ways of looking at this situation.

    (1)This is not really a joking matter!! Obviously Dad is terribly concerned. To suggest that his son might be a future porn star is like throwing salt into an open wound!!

    (2) There is the fact that the boy... (and I do mean BOY!) is 18 yrs old and responsible for his own decisions, but is he able to make them responsibly?? Nevertheless, short of talking to him about it, there is nothing more that Dad can do.

    (3) How was this boy raised? Was it a conservative Christian home or a liberal let it all hang out environment?? Only Dad and the boy know the answer to that question and it is seriously worth considering.

    (4) As for the question "Is it normal?" Well, I'm currently 55 yrs old but when I was 19 yrs old I was a very liberal young man and so was my girlfriend in those days. We grew up on the Oregon coast and I remember having sex with her at beach keg parties in from of everybody!! What's normal and what's right are two different things. Today at my age I believe that sex should be just me and my wife. Your son is sowing his wild oats. Hopefully he will regret it later. I mean that in a loving way.

    (5) Dad... remember when you were 18yrs old, the fantasies that went through your libido?? He's no different. Perhaps alcohol treatment is what he needs more than the sex issue. After all, if it weren't for the booze, the whole thing might never have happened!! To have a fantasy and to act on it are two different things!! If alcohol causes a person to do things that they might regret later, then maybe it's better to learn how to abstain.

    (6) Prayer is good in these situations. I mean that humbly. It's worked for me!!

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  • kittykat5

    Idkman

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  • Naughtygirl147

    Wth

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  • gloryholeflasher

    I think it's normal for young people to behave that way, especially when alcohol is involved. After all, isn't the whole idea behind drinking to lower our inhibitions so that we can do WHATEVER we want. Obviously your son and the girl wanted to deo this.
    If I had been in his place I would have done the same, and maybe even taken requests, for an eager audience that was cheering us on!

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  • Lariii

    That really doesn't sound normal, and later down the line, if he's considered for serious jobs and that comes up, he may lose some respect / credibility.

    And also, it's going to stay with the girl for the rest of her life, your son (though drunk) should not have fucked her in front of alll those people - and she shouldn't have done it too. It's lucky you're the parent of the son, because I bet the girls parents are probably pretty horrified.

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  • Aries

    it's fairly normal as a kid but I wouldn't say its super common behaviour . I think maybe he can be good for porn and is already old enough to apply . If he can drink and still fuck in a room of people , he may be built for porn ....anyways don't be too caught up on this but hopefully he tones it down since he's not getting paid for his performances

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    • stopandthink

      Did you seriously just recommend the porn industry as option for an 18 year old boy, to his father? Pornstar and Postman are two different things.
      OP, this isn't normal behaviour. I would speak to him.

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      • Diaperdean

        Good Call!

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      • Aries

        "hopefully he tones it down since he isn't getting paid for his performances" I am kidding ? I don't know the OP or his son .. I am not recommending anything . I think his son should think about what he is doing but just because you don't like to have sex with others watching doesn't mean it's not normal behaviour either . There are some people who enjoy it and find excitement in it ( not sure if that was his motive ) but it's not our place to tell his 18 year old son who is old enough to know what he wants to do with his penis . I also would like to note .. even if I did recommend the business .. what does it matter? it's a job , at least he is being paid for something he clearly enjoys doing .. if someone was advising him , he has the option to say no but since I was kidding .. none of that matters either .

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    • Diaperdean

      Bad call!!

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  • peterr2

    Do you want to have sex with the girl or your son?

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  • moonknight1996

    ur just jealous that he can get pussy earlier then u!!

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