Is it normal that my stepdaughter feels this way?

Umm, just a comment but I think you may need to respect her privacy. Why were you looking for lovenotes, anyway? You're not jealous, are you?

You are an idiot.

dude ohh hooo..
don't go looking through her shit.
thats wrong.
i would never do that to my own daughter.
she needs her privacy and space. when you do that type of shit and she finds out what you did(looking through her personals) she will hate you to no end. i know first hand from raising my youngest sibling.
all your going to do is push her away.
she has every right to feel the way she does after her parents separated. it is not her fault, maybe you should tell her in a polite nice way that she can come to you if she needs to talk about anything0BUT DO NOT FORCE THE HELP ONTO HER. let her say yes or no. and if she says no let her go. she will come to you when she is ready.
okay and another thing JUST BECAUSE SHE GOT INTO TROUBLE WITH A BOY AT SCHOOL DOESN'T MEAN SHE IS ON DRUGS!!! OR HIDING ANYTHING FROM YOU!
OKAY I THINK YOU NEED TO SIT THE F DOWN AND THINK TO YOURSELF "WASN'T I YOUNG ONCE?
jesus she probably got in trouble for making out with a guy on campus. or letting him go up her shit. bigggyyy fkn whoopty doo!! she is growing up. let her explore and be herself.
the more you push yourself on her and go through her stuff and accuse her of hiding and lying-SHE WILL HIDE EVERYTHING FROM YOU AND HER MOTHER. you also tell her mother to back off too.
i think both of you (mother and father) need to take a chill pill and calm the hell down.
as long as she isn't having sex yet its all good. but when she gets in trouble for being with a boy that is fkn lame. weren't you young once? weren't you a young horn ball at that age too? let it slide.
honestly the way i think of this situation is who cares if she us making out with a guy her age at her school?? YOU AS A PARENT SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAN TO GO ACCUSING AND RUMMAGING THROUGH HER STUFF!!! YOU AS A PARENT SHOULD JUST BE THANKFUL SHE IS NOT AN ALCOHOLIC AND DRUG ABUSER/USER!!!!
freakin grow up and grow some BALLS!!! AND BE A FKN REAL PARENT!

You really should'nt be going through her shit like that. Everyone deserves privacy.

Why don't you ask her yourself?

She's going through some rough patches right now, what with school, hormones, and an over protective stepdad who rifles through her things.

This poem is simply about her a confusing, sad, and perhaps angry part of her life which she is very bravely exposing to the world. Just give her some space. If her behavior changes, like she becomes moody and angry for no good reason (and for more than a week, just in case it's PMS), than have her mom talk to her.

Btw, looking through her things shows you don't trust her and she has no reason to trust you then.

My ex girlfriend was a child of divorce. It happened when she was younger, and it really messed her up. She never got over it and everytime the time of year that it happened roles around (winter) she gets super depressed and pushes people away.

btw who even writes love notes? not anyone ive ever known...

why the fuck would you go threw her things!!!!!!! your her stepdad thats so weird even if you were her real dad it would be wrog its an invasion of privacy, and you have no right putting her poem on the internet she probably didnt want anyone to see it and youve just shown it to the world!!!!!!!!

She said she'd like to marry you? Fake.

The reason I was rummaging thru her backpack for love notes is that she recently got in trouble over some things she did with a guy at school, and her mother asked that I check the backpack when she gets home from school so she doesn't have a chance to hide anything like lovenotes, drugs ect.

I'm not sure really what to say about the first paragraphs.

However I know of a good response to your problem.
You can quote me if you like, I don't mind.
You can just morph your answer from my thoughts should you want.

She's obviously a lot younger than you, and what girls want is an understanding guy. If you've always been there for her, then she may feel a bit dependent on you. I know that she may say it, however she needs to think about her decisions before she makes them.

Her past, her memories, they cloud her judgment. You need to assure her that she doesn't really mean what she says because that's not how she'd want to spend her life being. You'll need to tell her about the commitment a marriage takes and that she may not be ready to take that on.
I'd slip in the "I know you feel that way but I don't" at this point..

Look it could be good if she understands, or you could say that you'd much rather keep things as they are. Too quick a change isn't good.

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Sorry if that was a little lousy. Anyway, very much luck.

-Syn