Is it normal that my sister changed for a guy she barely knew?

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So my sister found out about a guy that liked her at church... she's 30 btw... he was younger than her by a few years... we would go to church every wed. Nd sun. so one day they got together... she wasn't that into him though... she just wanted to try him out... me and my sister were still tight back then. (We used to listen, sing nd dance to kpop all the time) we even made fun of the guy... (playfully) til one day he decided to move in with her to prove that he really loved her... and one day he got arrested (for false child abuse to his daughters) so when we got home nd he wasn't there.. my brother told her what happened... (this all happened in 3 months... from the day she found out he liked her to the day he got arrested) after that... she began going to church every day... started wearing long skirts... Nd she even abandoned kpop... in which we have been into together for almost 6 years... IIN? :(

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Your sister is exhibiting codependency under the guise religious fervor. She should have dumped him after he got arrested because where there's smoke there's fire. What evidence is there that the child abuse charges are false...his word?Gimme a fucking break. So she's acting weird and dressing funny with long skirts, huh...what stupid religion is this anyway? There's a good twelve step program for your sister and people like her it's called Codependents Anonymous. Check out this link http://www.coda.org/

    Sorry if I sound like a hard ass but in my humble opinion it sounds like your sister is desperate and afraid of being alone. Desperation is a sure fire way to find Mr. Wrong and ruin your life.

    What is Kpop?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yea she told me she was afraid of being alone and before she met him she would always pray that God would find the right man for her... Cause she was tired of being alone... She has two daughters and a son, too... Kpop is korean music... She used to have posters of Korean guys all around her room..she threw them away.. I had to take them out if the trash..

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Gosh, I'm so sorry. I don't think this guy is an answer to her prayers.

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  • pacinoharmon
    10 years ago

    I don't have enough information; are you sure the abuse charges were false, or is she in denial? Hopefully it was false because I hate to hear about children being abused. Anyway, changing for someone (unless it's for the better) isn't a smart thing to do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ik... And we're not certain... Oh btw i forgot to mention... This guy she changed for... Is married.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        OH MY LORD!!! Sounds like it's time for an intervention! She's building the worst kinda Karma by being with this dirt bag man. Oh the pathological hypocrisy of being extremely religious and going with a married man. She has a serious problem and it will most certainly end in pain and headache for her. Hang in there little sister. :(

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Yea he's married but separated... thnx btw.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I wouldn't change for nobody

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Tell it, Brother!

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  • la_uva_mojada
    10 years ago

    she has been choked by his cock

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  • changes123
    10 years ago

    Gah, I can't be bothered to listen to Kpop. It's all the same! Please make it stop!

    Don't do anything too harsh, that might push her away.

    But what do you think about her change of attitude?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I hate it it's so sad. we barely talk anymore... And for us kpop was everything... We would always go outside to dance it... And i love kpop so much... Especially teen top... I'm addicted.. But she abandoned it, and it became me and her daughter who loved teen top together, nd my mom wanted for her nd me to go to Mexico together for vacation... We thought my sister would say no, but she said yes... But then... She changed her mind... It was so sad... I'm still trying to get her to say yes again... I'm just so depressed now... I cry at least once a week.. But she's so obsessed with church now... She changed get mind because my niece wouldn't get baptized... As in... She was trying to force her...

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      • changes123
        10 years ago

        Nothing more I dislike than when someone tries to force religion onto you.

        The same thing happened to my sister... people change sometimes, and there's not a thing you can do about it.

        I just started focusing on myself. I still have the memories of when she wasn't too old to play fight with us.

        Time to open a new chapter in life.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    All this sounds alarming in a way. Although it doesen't have to be bad. If she changed her way of clothing and abbandoned Kpop that doesen't have to mean she changed who she is. The arrest thing sounds creepy though. Do you know his daughter? Who accused him?

    Do you still see your sister regurarly?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      She changed a lot though... We barely talk anymore... Nd she used to act my age... ALSO she told my mom a secret of mine from a while back ago... It was deep... My mom didn't get so mad but she did give me privileges... And i think deep inside she was heart broken.. Yeah i knew his daughters.. One was not his by blood.. the younger one was. his wife accused him. she even said that he abused her sister...

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        10 years ago

        I'm more and more confused. What I gather from all the things you've written now:
        Your Sister started a relationship with a married man who abuses his kids. Now she's become very religious and goes to church every day.
        Is it the same church you used to go together? What kind of religion would have such strict rules and at the same time allow him to have an extramarital relationship? Or is it just him thats so hypocritically extreme? If so then maybe you should talk to the church's leader about that guys behaviour. Maybe she'd listen to a religious authority.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Uhm.the church is not the one we used to go to..and i really don't know why she went out with him or even had sex with him if he's married in the first place... But the church she goes to now is an everyday church... Her best friend goes there... She's Christian...I'm also Christian.. But I'm just not an everyday going to church kind of person...

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    woah thats hards.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ik it is... :(

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