Is it normal that my sexuality seems to be changing over time?

I'm 23 and over the past few years I've come to the realization that I am indeed attracted to women (being a chick myself, this placed me in the solid lesbian category). I was never really okay with this, but over time it's just something that I came to accept, perhaps even be proud of (I've never come out though).

It's been strange lately though because I've found myself thinking about guys, in a sexual and romantic way. One guy in particular, who I've known since I was younger but hadn't seen in a while until recently is stuck in my head. I can't stop thinking about him, and I feel all of those nervous, giddy feelings when I think about him.

So, my general feelings and attraction towards girls hasn't changed, but all of a sudden I find myself wondering if I'm actually bisexual?

I feel kind of exasperated, because just when I got to a point in my life where I was okay with who I am, and all of a sudden I find myself developing feelings that I prayed for over and over from the age of about 9 or 10.

Anyway, is this normal? can sexuality be fluid? or did I perhaps just not meet a guy that I was compatible with until now? Has anyone got any insight into this?

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  • squirrelgirl

    Sexuality can be fluid; most people lie somewhere between "gay" or "straight" as the studies of Alfred Kinsey revealed. For your own peace of mind you can just think of yourself as "bisexual" unless experience leads you to a different conclusion. (That's what I did for myself anyway)

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  • DADNSCAL

    I went through several sexual phases in my 20's before I settled on bisexual. It's part of discovering who you are, and difficult too. You'll get through it.

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    • peterrabbyt2

      Glad to hear it, now you can know me and blow me!!

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  • I used to consider myself straight until late into puberty then I had bicurious feelings. When I finally acted on them I was into it until I came then I just didn't want to be there. The odler I got the stronger the gay feelings were and now I enjoy the gay sex a lot more too. I consider myself bi although I still tend to prefer women. I couldn't picture myself being in a relationship with a guy though. Sometimes I wish I was straight but I think that's ebcuase I had a very traditional upbringing. My sister is a lesbian and my mum always refers to her (now wife/civil partner) as her 'friend' when referencing her to someone. This irratates me slightly, it seems that my mum doesn't fully accept my sisters sexuality even though she fully understands it's nto a choice thing but this prevents me from wanting to come out as bi and I think is the deepset reason why sometimes I wish I wasn't.

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  • amaterasu

    You shouldn't put labels on yourself, just do whatever you feel like. If you can't decide on which side you want to stay, then just don't choose any. Be getting more experiences, you will truly know what you want.

    By the way, right now I am reading a very similar post, but from a guy: http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-that-i-became-gay-but-now-i-want-to-be-with-a-girl-badly-147485/

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  • Kaitlin

    I change from day to day depending on what turns me on. Labels are stupid and have no meaning. Have fun and get off, the rest doesn't matter.

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  • Hungryhungryhippo23

    I'm going through such a tough time right now, honestly. I have been attracted to women all my life. (I'm a girl) I felt so ashamed because my father is a pastor so I never came out. They thought my best friend was my boyfriend for 4 years. Then, I finally came out. It was terrible. I moved out. Dated many women. A year ago, I developed feelings for a guy! It was so odd and new for me but I went for it. But I have to be completely honest. I have to think of women to get off. I think I'm starting tp hate my life & guys. Ugh. I really think you should go for it. if you really are attracted to him physically, emotionally and all that. I'm totally depressed because we're still together. I cant even break it to him! :(
    :(

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  • Hottigene

    No thetes nothing wrong with you you sound Bi so accept it also you sound like a Girl who is very sexual and may need more than one Person to satify yourself theres nothing wrong with that Have Fun Sweety I would Love to hear From you Love if you would Private message me!!

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  • devil-in-skirt

    sure it is normal and u don't have to consider urself anything and all this bi and lez and str8 things are just as silly as u musn't think abt it, i live this way u can say i am living as bisexual but i am being lez and straight at some points of my life and sometimes it changes every day !! and really can't even say i am bi cos i am not any of those lez-bi-str8 ! well i have one relation till now and she was a girl and never want to be in relation with a guy but i feel some times str8 loving guys but not girls however my feeling just fluid away and my feeling to girls are more stable

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  • braintrip

    everybody's bisexual in the dark

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  • Iamagirl

    I seem to look at girls butts and I don't know why. I am attracted to women somewhat possibly because I am not pretty and I want to be like them. I like guys the most though I don't know

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  • ryan2k12920

    licking pussy is the best

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    • crimsonprodigy

      Meow :(

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  • hybee

    I think we're all a bit bisexual - and I speak as a man who has never had even one gay experience.

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  • whatdoyoumeannormal

    I think that sexuality is just sexuality. And homosexualtiy excist aswell for humans as for animals. I think that the way the society is built up around reproducing and the constitution of marriage is because of the low status men has put upon women. We dont need the economical support anymore because nowadays we can feed ourselves because we actually have the right to. I think its all about love, and we need to act more on love, than on anything else.

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  • quentari

    sexuality has actually got quite a bit of wriggle room, and you not being comfortable with some aspects of it possibly made you subconsciously hold some of those feelings back. It's also 100% possible that you just haven't found a guy you liked before now (I'm a firm believer in the straight/gay with an exception thing)

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  • SuperBenzid

    Sexuality can change over time. Though I don't know if that is what is happening here. It could be because you have become comfortable being lesbian that guys have become attractive to you because they are now exotic to your frame of mind. It is sometimes termed as the "the exotic is erotic", this would mean that when you were actually in a relationship with a guy your attraction would fade as it was no longer exotic to you.

    Really you will have to work out which of the two it is.

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  • shuggy-chan

    I have spare sexual fluids if ur in need...

    And yeah that normal for people of our generation

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    • peterrabbyt2

      You should know you old cocksucker!!!

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