Is it normal that my psychotic mother does not let me grieve?

She is not psychotic or twisted! Everyone deals with death in different ways. Don't judge her because her way of dealing with loss doesn't match yours.

Maybe she's going through the same thing but doesn't want to appear weak to you. It's unhealthy to hold in your feelings like that, and in a situation like this it would actually be abnormal not to be emotional, especially when you had such a good relationship with your father. This could be an opportunity to share in your mother's grief and bond with her over the passing of a loved one, but she doesn't seem to have any heart whatsoever. It's tragic that your mom is so insensitive in a time when both of you need each other more than ever.

I lost my sibling when I was 18. I found that my parents were not a good source of strength when I felt I could not handle the pain (though your mother seems to be much worse). I would suggest putting space between you and her if you can and joining a grief group as soon as you're able (this will provide you with a space to grief amongst people who understand your pain).

Your mom doesn't sound twisted or psychotic. I think you're forgetting that she is dealing with the death in her own way. Why only process when you go home? That sounds weird to me and not very effectiv. I am sorry for your loss. We all greive in our own way. You should allow your mom the same as what you want from her.

She's also grieving, but coping with it completely wrong. You are simply trying to progress through the normal stages of grief. You are in the right. I agree with the person ^ that suggests putting some distance between you and her. Once you have had the time to truly externalise your emotions and go through the natural process, maybe you'll be able to help your mother to do the same.

And I'm sorry for your loss. I know this comes from a far away anonymous voice, but it'll be okay. I hope you come to a place where life seems sunny again. Hang in there.

She might be going through the same thing, just trying to cope it in a different way to you, aka not openly grieving, maybe there's a bit of denial too - it's a tragedy to lose a loved one, and maybe she hasn't quite come to terms with he death and doesn't want to hear about it, because it's too painful for her. So, I wouldn't say your mum is psychotic, just that, in order to get away from her loss, she's squished it out of her conscience mind, and wants to keep it that way because otherwise it would be too painful, aka shutting you down.