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That's their form of punishment now. And they tell me it's wrong and it's fineable AFTER the fact, not before, so I have no way to prepare myself. I don't want to go broke because of their unreasonable rules.
Their house their rules but making the rules up on the fly anytime they find something to criticize is ridiculous and shitty - and is just bullying. Talk to them about setting up reasonable rules. Call them on bullying (label it) and how unfair that is.
If they won't listen, talk to grand parents, a relative, clergy, teacher counsellor anyone who might listen and step up to talk to them.
Bullying fills people with a false sense of power, control, vindication and sometimes they don't realize what they are doing, that it is inappropriate and violent and how it feels for the person being pushed around.
If they persist, get support emotionally outside the house, and as others have pointed out, make a plan to get out of there.
My mom is a really intimidating person. She always "convinces" my grandparents, her friends, any adult I know that being as strict as she is is okay. Then she boasts to me that everyone I know agrees with her, so I'm the wrong one.
Make sure you get your side of the story when your mom is not around. You need to stand up to your mom. Do not allow her to be intimidating. Do not be disrespectfull, but tell her no. But first tell your grandparents your side of the story. Tell them that you need to talk and they can ask questions later. Ask/ remind them to really listen to you before you tell them the story.
After you turn 18 they can't take your own money off you without your own consent. And they'll have no right to impose their ridiculous rules on you.
If I were you though, I'd save that money up for renting somewhere as soon as you do turn 18.
If you're over 18, they can't do that. Go to college or get a job and get out of there.
A parent's job is to raise their child, the best they can. Even punishing is part of saying " I love you." But it is completely wrong for them to take your money when you do something wrong. If they need it so bad, they can go out and get some jobs.
If you do want to move out you'll just have to realign your priorities, if not then keep on keeping on.
School work is too tough for you to have a job? You're 17, how tough can it be? It's all a doss until final year at Uni.
If you can't afford to move out you could always ask to move in with your grandparents until you have enough. Or maybe split rent with a friend.
Are you going to Uni? 'Cause then you can live in halls.
i would steal the money back your parents took from you they sound like horrible people i really feel for you ! move out
Get a job. I'm the same way actually I'm too lazy to study and I'm online schooled failing my classes. But I really want a job.
What do you mean by "do something wrong"? There is a whole spectrum of things you could be doing... from sticking your finger in your nose to planning a genocide. What is it exactly?