Is it normal that my parents are like this?

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Okay, I am 17 years old. My parents will not let me make my own decisions. They are too busy trying to make them for me, preventing me from making my own mistakes and learning from them. I also have absolutely no privacy. I don't have a lock on my bedroom door, because they took it off. So, anyone could just walk right in while I am changing, which they do. I have to reveal all passwords to social media sites, so, they check my twitter, my Facebook, and my Instagram. They even go onto my profiles sometimes and edit my stuff. They read my text messages on my phone whenever they can and perform checks on both my phone and iPod at any given time. So, they look through all of my messages, all of my photos, all of my videos, and all of my apps. They also monitor who I speak to so that they can screen them and decide whether or not I can talk to them. I am forced to turn in all electronic devices at ten o' clock, and then go straight to bed, even though I am 17. They also check the phone records to make sure that I haven't talked to anyone past ten. I am limited to two hours of electronic device usage per day. They don't support me or respect my opinion at all. I never get to voice anything in an argument. They always ignore me and overrule me and don't even listen to what I have to say. They are always trying to down me or discourage me. I hardly ever get any encouragement for anything. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months now and they keep making up excuses to take my phone to prevent me from talking to him. They say things like "He's secretly a girl. He is a psycho. You don't need to talk to him." They have never met him or talked to him once. He is the only guy who treats me like a real person and actually loves me, and makes me happy, and they try to make me miserable. They can't ever once be happy for me.

Is this normal parent behavior? What do you guys think?

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  • sinisteRouge
    10 years ago

    you need punk rock my friend

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Wait, do they have the password to this site? If they do, you've made a mistake. Change the password and delete your Internet history. Or, are you using a computer at say a friend's home or a library. Doing so at a library could pose a security risk of someone sees your password.

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    I think you ought to leave home.

    How can you be expected to live like that?

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    1. Depends on what country you are in. If its the US then, that means you are not the legal age. Since you live in their home and are still a minor, you'll have to live by their rules. However, this doesn't make what they are doing right.

    2. You need to tell someone about their behaviour as it sounds quite abusive and disturbing. Tell your boyfriend's parents or trusted adults at your school. Like the school therapist, which are actually social workers, a teacher, the principal, etc.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    Ur mom is such a hoe (check in her room how many giant dildoes she has) that she assume u r the same as her

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Does your family belong to a cultish weird religion like Jehovah's Witness?

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  • awkwardkartoffel
    10 years ago

    Honestly, I know what a strict/protective parent feels like. I'm a teen, still living with my parents, etc. They like knowing who I'm talking to, what I'm doing, etc. They don't really take my opinion or respect my privacy at all. But I mean, that's because I know they love/care about me and don't want me getting into things I shouldn't get into. But I do get some privacy and I'm not constantly watched. I feel like your parents are MUCH too overprotective. That could honestly be a problem. Are they jealous of people you get close to? You mentioned that they tried to stop you liking your boyfriend. It's not usually strange for parents to not want their little girls to grow up, but the way you described that was a bit strange. The fact that they say things like "he's a girl" is childish. Not something I'd expect from adults. That's an interesting situation, love. I'd say you find a way to talk to them about it, but if that's out of the question, then wait until you are legally an adult and move out. Being that overbearing is a form of abuse.

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  • thatchickyouhate
    10 years ago

    oh, I know: get a job, move out, and support yourself... no?

    sounds like typical loving parents, to be honest. and the part about them being down on you or not encouraging you, I feel like that's probably a distorted view of what's actually happening. i remember high school and struggling with similar issues, now I understand why they did what they did but at the time it was hard to get past. all they are trying to do is raise you right.

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  • CockMonglerTheGreat
    10 years ago

    Not normal. I say you tell them to leave you alone or else your out. Also you can sue them legally for invasion of privacy.

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  • blue_avocado
    10 years ago

    Well, as a parent I understand having the passwords but I only use them to spot check for crisis. I prefer them to not lock their door for fire reasons, but I always knock before entering and ask if I can come in. I think they are beyond over protective and it might suit you to ask them to join you in counseling. A counselor will take you on for free bc you have no income.

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  • Gamzeee
    10 years ago

    That sounds terrible. You can come stay at my house. I don't think that anyone should have to deal with that.

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  • evadine
    10 years ago

    I feel they are just really trying to make you nit screw up your life. I wish my parents had been this strict would have prevents do much of the bad whit in my life and maybe getting fit wouldn't be so hard if I weren't do dependant on electronics

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    You sound like ashley out of the fresh prince.

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    The only thing good about parents this rigid and protective is that when you want to rebel, you hardly have to do anything. Nothing illegal or dangerous is needed to rebel because everything is off limits.

    Sigh. It will be over soon and then they will be surprised that you communicate nothing to them.

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