Is it normal that my overly nice roommate is beginning to annoy me?

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I recently went to college, and I was worried that my roommate would be a hoodlum... but instead, she's the exact opposite.

She's actually a little too nice... too nice, that's it's actually getting on my nerves. I don't know, maybe if we shared the same interests, I wouldn't be as critical, but for whatever reason, she's so nice, it's actually annoying. It's to the point where even little things that she does gets on my nerves.

Has anyone else had this experience with really nice people?

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    What does she do?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I feel so sorry that you are trapped with a "too nice" person.
    Oh well, life sucks, and then you die.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Wow what a dilemma.

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  • splatt
    10 years ago

    It's not abnormal. You guys have nothing in common. So you have no connection. Yet she practices a level of friendliness that is inappropriate for your relationship. At some point if your level of friendliness is not reciprocated by the target people would normally adjust their behavior accordingly. I would say she is the abnormal one.

    That being said, a lot of times people that are super friendly have low self esteem and find it very important that everybody likes them. It wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you to meet her half way and try to understand her. If she does suffer from low self esteem, your opinion of her could be disproportionately important to her. I would encourage you to give her a shot, at least.

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    • Therawyn
      10 years ago

      I agree with you. I am a person that's always nice to people because I desperately seek acceptance due to low self esteem. She could easily be like that.

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  • dybex
    10 years ago

    Maybe her parents raised her to have good manners. Since you weren't raised in that fashion, I can see how you might mistake politeness for niceness.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I was raised to be polite and nice, but I've never really been as nice and polite as I could be :/ ...Such as my dumb annoyance with my overly nice roommate.

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  • MysticLane
    10 years ago

    I have a friend like that and I used to get really annoyed with her. But I learned to deal with it and eventually I realized that she is actually secretly not a completely nice person. like you think they're the nicest most innocent person in the world until they show their dark side. And you realize that they might be one of the worst people cause they're very fake and manipulate people into thinking they're extremely nice.
    oh yeah so anyways i'm still friends with that person. I don't really hold bad character traits against people, idk i learn how to deal with most people.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    I really love your post OP, your smart, intelligent and funny. Don't ever change OP...when your asleep I just sit and watch you for hours...Iv'e modeled myself on you...sometimes I imagine that all your family and friends just disappeared so I could have you all to myself :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Haha xD Okay, that was pretty good :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Anyone who's too nice is upto something.

    Or really high.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    I am a male but similar. My roommate was very nice looking and he had many friends. Most of them he "bedded" on a nightly basis. I agreed that if the "Post blank" was on the door, that I would not venture in. Well, there was a post on the door every night. He was too nice. He even wanted to know if I wanted any that he couldn't get to.

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  • noid
    10 years ago

    Yes, i know what you mean.

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    I think we're going to need some examples, otherwise it sounds like nothing is wrong here. I'm expecting some outrageous things like doing your bed for you, offering to clean your clothes everyday, sweeping the floor in front of where you're actively walking 24/7 and chewing your food for you.

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