Is it normal that my older cousin is not capable to relax ?

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my cousin is 29 years old and unemployed. his childhood was enough sad cuz his parents divorced when he was a child and they never got on well. his father is very selfish and focused on his job. his mum has a weak personality and sometimes she gets depressed. so my poor cousin didn't have a balanced family and now he's paying the consequences. He's unable to spend one evening at home, watching a movie or reading a book. He always goes to the disco and comes back home at 05:00 a.m. a couple of months ago , he was driven home by his friend cuz he was too drunk to stand up. i asked him if he's a drug addicted or if he smokes weed but he always denies. i trust him if he says he's not a drug addicted but i'm worried cuz it sounds like he's triyng to hide his pain. there's something that hurt him but he's afraid to face it so he keeps on leading this stressful life.
P.S. he's homosexual and has got an affair with an architect and they both love each other. but my cousin is not brave enough to tell his father the truth cuz he might be dissapointed.

i've tried to talk to him about this strange attitude but he claims he's not sick.i adviced him to go to a psycologist but he refuses. what should i do?

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  • animalcracker
    13 years ago

    Holy shit that sucks.. I dont know what to say

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    i'm not intrusive! just worried for him

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    What should you do? Mind your own business - he is an adult. Continue to support him - without passing judgment on him.

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    he came out...all his close friends know he's gay but his father doesn't. they never meet each other nor hug...they never have a deep conversation.they behave like strangers...the reason why they never got along is because his father didn't look after his babies when they were younger. he was always working to accumulate money. he's very rich but mean too. He has always wanted his sons to work with him , ignoring their dreams. i think a father should help his sons to make their dreams come truen and not bring them down.
    maybe the problem is that my cousin is not brave enough to tell his father he wants to lead a different life.

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  • xxjenxx
    13 years ago

    EVERYBODY'S gotta story. we all have a dysfunctional family, a brother in jail, a sister on crack, etc. some people take it more seriously(i guess). maybe, he just needs to figure things out on his own or needs to live abit. it sucks that he ain'T coming out because he thinks his dad will be "disappointed". but, maybe he thinks all this shit is HIS fault, which isn'T, and he doesn't know how to be happy, or he'S just not ready to be happy (coming out is really relieving).
    seriously, i think all he needs is support right now. if ever he talks up, he'll need someone to listen.
    luck.

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