Is it normal that my older cousin (10) touched me when i was 6 years old?

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im a girl and when i was about 6 years old my older cousin who is a guy (10 at the time) wanted to play "doctor" with me. basically i laid down on the couch and he had me take off my pants and my underwear. he then basically touched my vagina for a bit before my aunt came downstairs

i didnt think that this had affected me so much but it was really really difficult just to type that out. ive always been extremely uncomfortable around my older cousins and i wonder if this is part of the reason why? i also have HUGE intimacy issues and anything sexual makes me extremely uncomfortable.

im kinda worried if this traumatized me or something like i feel like im going to cry just writing this. i also wonder if possibly more happened that i have since blocked out because i only remembered this a few weeks ago

i just dont know if it counts as sexual abuse or anything because we were both pretty young, at the same time though i feel like most 10 year olds know that that is not okay. i just want to hear what someone else says about this

im not at all trying to go to court over this or anything, i just wanna know for emotional reasons bc i have a lot of mental health issues and if i have trauma that could be at the root of some of it

was this normal and innocent for young kids or something much worse??

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I think it's hard to say if it's "normal". Kids that age are curious and they imitate what they see and hear from adults. I am a male. WhenI was about 4-5 years old, I was playing at my neighbors. She was about a year older than me. Her dad had made her a little tent next to her house. We were playing in the tent and she asked if I wanted to play "sex". I had no idea what that meant but said I would. She had us both take our clothes off, and then she licked my penis and butt. When she finished, she had me lick her. I remember thinking it didn't taste very good, but that was about it. When my older brother got home from school, she told him about it. Well, he told my mother, who promptly sent me to bed after shaming me for my actions. When my two older brothers and my older sister got home, they shamed me, and my dad gave me a spanking! So, sex to me for the longest time was taboo! By the time I was 10-12 years old, I was ready to figure this thing out, and began experimenting! Masturbating became a common thing, I started eating my ejaculate almost right away, and started inserting my finger and other objects in my butt! As I got older, my actions became even more daring and perverse! I think that shaming set the stage for my risky sexual activities as I got older. Don't really know the point of this other than to say that your experience probably had a profound effect on you, that maybe only you realize! I hope you can somehow get some comfort from your loved onesz,

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    I would meditate.

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    • Vincent141004
      6 years ago

      I would kick his ass.

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  • TerriAngel
    6 years ago

    Normal kids stuff.
    I don't believe in repressed memories or
    PDSD in this case.
    Only survivors of war earn that one.
    You may have issues, but don't blame your life on this one incident.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Sounds like you are an abuse survivor with PTSD.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    Did he become a gynecologist? If not then no, its not normal.

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