Is it normal that my old best friend is my imaginary friend?

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First, a bit of background. I'm a 20 years old guy, never had any real friends, and I spend all my time on the computer, programming (I study Computer Science), reading books or browsing the Internet.

About four years ago, I started to play an MMO game. Having no real-life friends, I made many friends on that game and spent a lot of time playing it. About one year after starting, I met a guy that became my best friend. We spent a lot of hours just talking to each other, sometimes just logging to the game to talk, not to play. We were unbelievably similar, we had the same personality, same thoughts, and we were born less than ten days apart! He even quit his warehouse job and started studying Computer Science because of me.

During that time, I developed the habit of thinking about things to tell him while I'm away from the computer. For example, thinking "I'll tell him that the exam we had today had a hilarious typo" while having that exam. That habit became very strong over the years.

About nine months ago, I lost all contact with him. I have no idea what happened to him, he just disappeared one day.

... And that was the last time I ever talked to a friend. I quit that game some time before that because I had to concentrate on my studies, and that was my only source of friendship.

Now I'm friendless, yet I still have that habit of thinking of things to tell my friend! I thought it would go away after few months, but it never did. Now he's practically my imaginary friend. I don't "see" or talk to my imaginary friend as a person, but rather, I keep thinking of things I would tell him if we were still friends. It's really annoying and depressing.

I realize that my life is pathetic and hopeless, I'm fully aware that I probably will never get a girlfriend, and I know that I "should get more friends". Unfortunately, that is not an option, and it's not related to the question I'm asking here (i.e., does anyone else have such semi-imaginary friends?)

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tl;dr: I had only one friend in my life and now I lost him, but I keep thinking of him.

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  • birchboy
    13 years ago

    life gets better, teens and twenties are hard, you will begin to meet friends and find a partner i'm sure.

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  • Tinybird
    8 years ago

    Not weird, I mean I have an imaginary boyfriend!

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    • cumforfunn
      8 years ago

      Wouldn't a real boyfriend ne more funn

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      • Tinybird
        8 years ago

        Well unfortunately, the type of guys I like are few and far between in my area. I mean, I'm only attracted to Asian guys and I live in a small village in rural England with a few farmers and elderly people. I think I'm out of luck tbh :/

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  • hasty
    10 years ago

    Like the guy above said, I'm sure you can find him. Get on that googling.

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  • Cheese123
    10 years ago

    Remember the guy who saw a beautful girl on the subway and found her by making this website? Maybe you could try that?

    http://www.nygirlofmydreams.com/

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  • Cheese123
    10 years ago

    LOOK FOR HIM. This is the internet. I'm sure it's worth a shot.

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  • la_la_la_la
    11 years ago

    Hiya,

    I never referred to my old friends as best friends, because men just don't do that (I’m female). We had music in common, & that's been the basis of most friendships since. Luckily it's quite easy to find people who share my tastes if you look in the right places. Do you have a specific thing you like doing ??

    I'm glad said old friends got me into said music, but if I contacted them all now we'd have nothing to say. They've changed, as have I.

    In my experience internet friendships can & do last a long time, but again, you just need to look in the right places.

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  • Happygogolucky
    12 years ago

    Dude, I can totally relate. The only friends I have ever had were the ones I made in gradeschool and I have lost all contact with them. My best friend is my little sister... I'm just not good around people... I just make little friendships on the internet that don't last very long. I can't say I've ever had an imaginary friend.

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  • brownsheep
    13 years ago

    Maybe you should get out a bit more, LOve brownsheep<3

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    i'm kinda in a situation like that with a guy i liked and kinda still do. do you have myspace or fbook? if not, maybe you should make one and look this guy up. if you don't find him, you can always socialize with new people and make new friends. good luck :)

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  • jubi
    13 years ago

    I do that thing with my friends, where I think of things to tell them when they're not around.

    But I think you should quit thinking about your old friend and move on! You'll never make friends unless you try.

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