Is it normal that my mother irks my soul?

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I CANNOT STAND MY MOTHER.
Everything she does irritates me. Her voice, her laugh, her face, everything! My skin crawls when she's around and I just get this really intense feeling of wanting to punch her. Our relationship sucks and every time we get into even a tiny argument she turns it into this huge drama fest about how her childhood was bad and blah blah just things that are completely irrelevant to the situation. I don't know how many times we've had the same discussion about "fixing our relationship" and nothing has happened. I've tried to make her understand that SHE needs to change in order for anything positive to happen between us but she doesn't fucking get it. She thinks she does no wrong. I cry when we argue sometimes out of frustration and I always try my best to stay calm but she just makes me so fucking mad I raise my voice and then she says I'm playing the victim when all I'm doing is expressing myself. Nothing gets through to her!!! I have three other siblings and we've all told her the exact same thing yet she still wonders why her relationship with us is such crap and why we don't like her. It's ridiculous. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna hate my mom but she makes it so hard for me to even like her.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I love it. "She needs to change", she needs to do this, or that, but no mention of what you could do to help the situation.
    I couldn't tell from your post if you live with her or not, but if you don't, why not just stay away?
    If you do, then can I assume she is supporting you and allowing you to live in her home? If so, do you contribute ANYTHING at all, or is it all one sided, like your post?

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    • Cliche1234
      8 years ago

      My guess was correct. Every time I see a post about "OP hate his/her mom", I know that you'll be commenting on it, lol.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Unlike these children, I've been on both sides of the coin, coming from a home I had to leave at 15, and being the single parent of 2 girls.
        If you don't think that makes me qualified to comment on the "I hate mommy/daddy" posts, then what would, in your esteemed opinion?

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        • Cliche1234
          8 years ago

          No. Of course everyone is qualified to comment on this kind of post. I like how you try your best to give honest advices toward OP with mommy/daddy issues which I've seen a lot here.

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            Sorry, I misunderstood you.

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            • Cliche1234
              8 years ago

              It's all good, mr. sailor sir. :)

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    • Asteele21
      8 years ago

      God you sound just like her. I've tried simply just talking to her but she turns everything into this huge argument. I've tried just accepting that she's my mother and being nice to her but like I said, she turns everything into an argument. Every time. I'll ignore her when she starts being negative because I don't want drama but she literally stands an inch away from my face to get me riled up until I cave and start arguing back and she turns it around on me and says I'm being disrespectful and not to treat her that way as she's my mother. Even when I go to my room, she follows me and continues yelling about whatever it is she was yelling about. It's not like I want to live here, I don't have anywhere else to go and she won't let me work until I'm done with school. (I'm 17). She doesn't even work herself actually, never has. I don't know how many times I've tried to salvage our relationship because she IS my mother but if she can't see that she's the one who's fucking it all up then I don't see how I can do anything.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Maybe I sound like her because I am a parent, too. There are so few on here who have any respect for the difficulty of being a parent to a teen. It certainly isn't any fun to supply an ungrateful child with everything he/she needs and a lot of what they want, yet be considered an idiot and totally disrespected for your trouble.
        What do you care if she's ever 'worked'? What's it to YOU? Try running a household on a meager income and care for ungrateful children for 18 years and then come back and say 'she never worked'.
        Fiddlesticks!

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    Maybe your mom feels the same about yo

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