Is it normal that my mom wants to talk about sex like it's nothing

I'm 18 and a girl. For a few years now my mom has wanted to talk about sex with me like it's nothing. She tells me she doesn't care if I've done it, who I've done it with or when as long as I'm smart about it. She kinda acts like she wants to talk about like you would with a best friend. I love my mom so much and we're close but I just don't know if it's weird for her to be so open and carefree or if it's normal. I understand she wants me to feel like I can be totally open to her about anything, but is she doing it normal?

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Based on 115 votes (80 yes)
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  • howaminotmyself

    I think the "normal" way parents talk about sex is extremely unhealthy.

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    • Do you think how my mother does it is better? I mean I can't really complain about it, at least she doesn't freak out. But I can't help but find it kinda awkward!

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      • Devyn

        Sex is completely natural and most people do it, so why shouldn't we all talk about it as if it's natural?

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        • Wow, somebody other than the great cat had an opinion that wasn't that of a sheltered teenage moron for a change.

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        • Anime7

          Not a bad point, but people like to make things awkward so its not really something people want to discuss. Personally I don't blame them.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    My Mom was like that. It was great. By the time I was 18 and moved out, I knew a lot about sex and how sexual relationships should be conducted, I know quite a bit about birth control, how it works and where to get it.

    This compared to the multitude of teens and young adults who get pregnant who know ZERO or next to ZERO about contraceptives and proper behavior in a sexual relationship whose parents buried their heads in the sand and acted like their kids would NEVER have sex or made it a taboo subject in their homes.

    I didn't like talking about it at the time. It was really awkward for me to talk about sexual experiences with my Mom as a teen but as a young adult, I really appreciate that we did have those talks because it prepared me for a lot of things that many women my age go into quite blindly and come out quite hurt.

    It's not normal, but it should be. I have never been pregnant, never gotten an STD and never had any issue obtaining contraceptives or knowledge thereof and I have my Mom to thank.

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  • NotStrangeBird

    You will appreciate this in years to come.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Kids should be able to talk to their parents about anything. I see nothing wrong here.

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    • Ibelievethis

      I agree. I have always talked openly to my daughter about sex and have always answered any questions that she has asked me honestly and with no embarrasment at all.
      My mum on the other hand was the complete opposite, infact she'd probably still think I was a virgin and had never been kissed if I wasn't a mother myself. I suppose many parents are like this though. xx

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  • purplegirl22

    From personal experience, be lucky that she's alright with it. My parents wanted to kick me out because I've done it. I want your mommy!

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  • Coolieo

    My mom's a nurse so she talks about it, but not inappropriately. She doesn't talk in the birds & bees way, just like it's apart of life.

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  • well my mum or da never talks about sex to me
    and when they told me about sex when i was 11 i already knew about it for years. but i guess growing up a Catholic and in a Conservative Country has something to do with the not talking about it as much as Americans do.

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Well, really, sex really is nothing, just the biology of our bodies. My mother wanted to talk to me about sex when I was a teen, but I never saw it as a big deal. I still don't think it's a big deal as long as keep it mature. Just be an adult and have an adult conversation. Sure she is your mother but sex is natural. It's just how we reproduce.

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  • DADNSCAL

    I don't think there's really any "normal" way to talk to your kids about sex. It's all about what the parent and child are both comfortable with. If you're comfortable with the way your mother is talking, tell her you really appreciate her caring enough, but she needs to change her approach.

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  • nelly96

    My mum does this too! But she doesn't ask me about my life shred wants to tell me about herself and my father.
    Thanks ma, really didn't need to know dad's penis was slanted.
    I end up slapping my hands over my ears and screaming "la la la la la la la la"

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    • Hahaha I've done the covering my ears and screaming too! My mom doesn't tell me things quite that crazy, but she's given me too much information more than once!

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  • Darkoil

    My Mum has always stayed out of my personal business even when I was 16 and going out drinking a lot and getting with multiple people.

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  • Jeaneathean

    I think you are fortunate, even if you find it embarrassing.

    Sex education from my parents was absolutely nothing. (For which I am extremely grateful, to tell the truth.)

    This type of openness can only be a good thing, surely?

    I wish you well.

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  • Ibelievethis

    I think it's good that your mum has a healthy attitude towards sex. xx

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  • Redlegs24

    Sounds like she is a great mom to me & she just wants you to be open with her & she wants to make sure your prepared for it

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

    I am 19 and my mum is the same. Yet I am not so bothered because I believe sex means nothing too. I guess it can mean something if you are in love, but I also do it purely for the fun with people I barely know.
    It's true, like your mum says, doesn't matter who with or how many times but just be safe. As long as contraception is used and you aren't hurting anyones feelings or have bad intentions, then it is fine.
    I am glad me and my mum are so open about sex. If it wasn't her then I would probably had a baby by now because she was the one who made me realise just how important and essential contraception is. It's good to be open about these things with someone older and wiser.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    It IS nothing. Why make such a big deal of it?

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Maybe she is just trying to trick you into spilling the beans.

    Parents can be sly like that.

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    • I mean, I've told her stuff already. So you can consider the beans to be spilled! But it still just seems kinda weird to me haha

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      • Terence_the_viking

        Oh ok.

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