Is it normal that my mom rubbed herself up against my chest?

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The situation: I live out of town from my mom. I live basically in the north she lives in the south. I have lived in the north over 12 years now away from her just visiting a few times a year cause I have a brother and nephew there too. I'm a 34 y/o woman. I went down to visit this past Christmas and left on Cristmas morning to go back to my house because of work. We did Christmas on the eve of C'mas.

This is what happen: So I got up on Christmas Day, getting ready to go and putting my stuff in the car. I'm dressed in road wear, tshirt and jeans. So everything was in the car and I am ready to go and say goodbye. Only my mom was there at the time. I am by the door and my mom says let me give you a hug, so I stop to give her a hug and I haven't even put my arms up to hug yet, they are out to the side. She grabs me, putting herself against me like too too close. This is happening so fast I swear I went into to shock like what is this lady doing and couldn't move. At the same time I am like let me see how far she is going so I will know just how sick she is. I'm thinking what kind of hug is this? I saw her kind of look down at my chest real fast and he then posiitons herself to hit my chest with hers and then rubs herself, chest against my chest and presses against it. This is all happening like really fast and I am thinking should I hit this lady or what. It was like she was trying to get a feel or get off.

Other I info: I normally do not hug her like that even when I have left other times. It's a quick normal hug. Like ok, goodbye. We are not the closest mom and daughter to where hugs are normal or if we leave the house we give a hug all of the time.

This really threw me for a loop because surely as a grown woman I know what a normal hug is from something else. It just seemed like she was getting sexual. I also do not think she is the sainest lady around my brother has pointed out other issues that she has such as handling business type.

I haven't told my brothers yet, but I would like other opinions especially from females like what would you think if you saw this or you mom did this? If I saw this happen to someone else I would be like why was your mom so close on you like that?

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago | pl

    Am i the only one who doesn't think this is a big deal? How do you know it's sexual? She didn't grab your tits right? Basically it was an abnormally long, close hug? Of course, i wasn't there but it seems you may be blowing it out of proportion.

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    • PumpkinKate
      12 years ago

      I'm going with Jweezee on this one... it seems more likely that this was a close hug that simply put someone in a discomfort zone. From the information provided, it was a hug... the sexual aspect was perceived by the OP, not blatantly stated or acted upon by the mother.

      Honestly who knows? But from what I've read it just seems like it was a hug?? Generally I believe that when the response is greater than the stimulus, there is an outside factor weighing in, and that factor has been left out of this story because a close hug is just a close hug.

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      • suure
        12 years ago

        Thanks for responding.... Could be an outside stimulus. Don't know. Maybe it was just a "too close" kinda hug. I'll just make sure it was the last kind of hug like that. I guess cause I don't normally hug her like that.

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Thanks for responding.... Maybe I could be blowing it out of porportion. I guess it's because I don't normmaly hug on my mom like that when I see her and I didn't when I was there as a child. No she didn't grab them but it just didn't seem like a normal hug to me. It just seemed like she went out of her way to press against my chest. Don't know.

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    • taciturn
      12 years ago

      Same here... it sounds like this person was describing a fairly normal hug in the most overly vulgar terms possible.

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      • suure
        12 years ago

        Don't think so just describing what I think happened. Describing it like that is not vulgar if thats what happened. There are mothers with issues out there.

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul
    12 years ago

    your mom molested you and now you're pregnant. end of story. what's not normal about that?

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Seriously?

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      • DemonicFortuneCookie
        9 years ago

        Yep.

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    • DemonicFortuneCookie
      9 years ago

      nothing strange at all about that.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Well, you did mention that she wasn't the "sanest" person. Has she EVER done this before?

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Yesw I did mention that. I was not trying to be vulgar in my description. That's just what I think happened. I know what a hug is. I hug my freidns all the time. This just seem weird. I was like a tight sueeze hug it was more of a press. That's the onlyy way I can describe it. I guess if it seems vulgar than it obviously was cause that's what happened.

      And no because I don't normally hug on her like that we weren't the closet mother and daughter when I was a kid.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Under no circumstances whatsoever would that be considered normal! Never contact this woman again!

    She comes from the south? Apparently, southern people have this perverted tradition to look at your boobs/feel you up when you're going through puberty.

    My mother told me that her aunt felt her up and was telling her breasts were really growing. She told her mother, but she defended her sister and said that it was normal!

    When, I was younger I remember there were times when that aunt was look very long at my growing boobies and once she even got her other sisters and my grandmother, to talk about my breasts and size. I can't remember what I did, but I know I was embarrassed and they got angry at me for it. They were also angry at the fact I cross-dress and like to wear lose shirts and how they could really see my breasts!

    Mind you, I got my period at nine. So, I had to have been pretty young at the time. I remember a few years later, I was at that aunts house and she stopped and told me to uncross my arms so she could get a good look at me. I did and to my horror she spent an hour or so, commenting on my breasts through my loose shirt. I think I told my grandmother, but she didn't care and said that it was normal. Those people were always making comments about my body.

    Perhaps, this is one of the reasons why I hate them so? It's all very traumatizing.

    I'm sorry you had to go through that. Your mother is a sick person.....

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Wow Avant seriously? Maybe you know where I am coming from and yes, woman from the south do comment on your body. Like hips and chest size. Like I said if what I described seems vulgar like "taciturn" said then maybe it was and that's the answer I need. I did see it as vulgar. My friends don't do that when the hug. It's real quick , pat, and go. But it was like she was going out of her way to press up on me there was no room between us, too close and very uncomfortable. Yeah she's my mom but mother have issues too. Yes, she is from the south and I think that women do have some perverted thing about breast.

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      • Avant-Garde
        12 years ago

        I wish I was joking:/

        When, I usually hug my friends, it's very quick. Sometimes, I hug closer friends for much longer. We'll hug very close, but there's nothing "sexual" about it.

        A relative of mine has a tendency to rub my hair and go all the way down my back and stop almost on my ass. It really creeps me out. She first did it when I was some years younger and eventually I told her she needed to stop. But occasionally, she does it again! It seriously freaks me out! None of my friends have done it. I do have a friend with a supposed "hair fetish" and when my hair was longer she used to touch it all the way down my back. It made me uncomfortable, but she never got near my ass....

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    • sunny_wantsome
      12 years ago

      As she is her daughter she must be from south too does this mean she is a pervert too. just asking. and i feel sorry for you i don't know why but i do.

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      • Avant-Garde
        12 years ago

        I think you misinterpreted me:/

        It seems to be a custom among older people from the deep south....
        Just because she's from the south or her mother is southern doesn't mean that she's a pervert. She said that her mother was mentally ill so, this could have also contributed.

        Your "feeling sorry for me" is it in a negative light because of your misinterpretation or is it in a more positive feeling? A "positive feeling" because you truly feel sorry for the traumatic experiences in my life?

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        • suure
          12 years ago

          Yes the older people are different and it may be some kind of nasty culture. Plus I am a totally different generation from that.

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      • suure
        12 years ago

        Just cause I'm her daughter doesn't mean I'm from the south. She is from the deeper south, had a very different upbringing and childhood from me, and I went to military schools on military bases,more east south than deep south, my dad was military and mainly from the east coast midatlantic. For example N. Carolina to me is different from GA, AL, MI, LA which I think is deeper south than NC and VA. I also moved north at an early age so no I do not think like that. I am not perverted and would never hug my daughter or neices like that.

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  • Balls57
    12 years ago

    First she's your mother and you're alive thanks to her.. Don't call her "this lady".

    And she only gave you a hug, maybe she felt needed for a good close hug. You can talk to her about it, it's advised to be in a good relationship with your parents

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Are you serious? Do you know how many sick mothers there are out there? Do you watch Nancy Grace? Mother are killing their baby girls everyday and did you hear about the "loving mother" in Fayettville, NC. That let some man take her daughter for sex and then killed the 6 yar old girl? Yeah I guess that's how you have a good relationship with your parents. Parents do not always mean well by their kids.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    Is it normal that I rubbed your mom's chest?

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Your not related so I guess it would be normal if that's what you wanted

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  • DemonicFortuneCookie
    9 years ago

    Thanks for the boner.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    9 years ago

    Your momis 1 sick fuck

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  • familyguy63
    10 years ago

    my mom went way further when I was about 14!!! too embarrassed to share,but it's about as bad as possible!

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    You mom probobly gave you a long hug since she loves you. Generally people will give a long hug if they have not seen you in awhile or no you are going away a long time. For fuck sake its your mother. Why you getting your panties in a bunch since she hugs you?

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  • sissycakes
    11 years ago

    i think your mom just wanted to give a proper good-bye, because she knew she wouldn't see you for a while

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  • Quackaddict
    12 years ago

    Let's just say that Gilliam Williams will check out this case and get back to me. So just... Hold....0n?

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  • one_who_wonders
    12 years ago

    have you considered that perhaps it was just a hug? perhaps she rarely see's you and miss you

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Could have been. I just didn't see it as normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    dont tell your brothers

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      maybe they'll get jealous? *evil grin*

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Why not??

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        cause the op could be mistaken and that sort of thing cant be unheard

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Maybe it was an accident? Visit her again and see if she hugs you like that again...

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    • suure
      12 years ago

      Don't know . We'll see.

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