Is it normal that my mom never taught me self care

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She never taught me how to properly take care of my face and hair, she never taught me the benefits of eating healthy and the risks of eating junk food, she never taught me the benefits of exersize. I basically lived my entire childhood and teen years of life being completely lazy and living off of processed food. I never ate fruits or vegetable. I didn't know how to moisturize my face. I didn't know I had to but sunscreen on my face before going outside. I always had acne. My hair was damaged, thin, and rough. My hair always got oily after a few hours. My face was dry. I weighed around 170 pounds. I always was rough when rinsing my face and hair. I'm 19 now and I basically look the same way except I'm exersizing more and I am working on fixing my processed food addiction. Is all of this reversible? I feel like my face will get wrinkly when I'm 25 or something because of lack of care. I would appreciate advice and support

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    This sounds similar to me but I don't blame my mom. She had a whole lotta shit going on at the time that I found out about years later. Besides that, I had wicked issues and wouldn't have listened anyway. Now you know better and you're still young enough to get on the right track. You can find out everything you need to know on the internet. I didn't have that when I was a kid.

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    • despuit
      8 years ago

      You are better than I, I have no respect for my mother. Regardless of what she is going through internally I don't see it as an excuse to abuse your children. I do not hold a grudge, I simply do not have any emotional attachment towards her as none was developed. And based on her behaviour I see no reason to respect her.

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      • dirtybirdy
        8 years ago

        Oh, sorry to hear that. I guess my situation was a bit different. It wasn't intentional and she did the best she could. She has realized all the little things that she didn't do and feels awful about it and we're very close now.

        Looking back, I think I should have been able to figure some of the things out on my own but like I said, I had so many issues in my own mind that those things never even crossed my mind. I get annoyed with myself for not snapping out of it when I was younger but it's in the past and we've all moved on. I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you do though. Just keep moving forward and try not to look back.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    The healthy eating and excercise is all part of parenting, but the rest, to a degree, is your responsibility. Why would you need to be taught how to moisturise your face? I really can't understand the dilemma here. Also, acne is usually due to hormones, not personal activity. Diet would probably be at play from what youve said.

    I didn't start using moisturiser until my late 20s. I don't wear sunscreen as often as I should. I haven't shriveled up yet.

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  • Meditated
    8 years ago

    U sound like me lil sis.
    I (a dude) had to teach her how to look after her hair and skin(moisturize and hair oil e.t.c).
    I told her mum n dad were never "cool" soo ur gonna have to figure that out(how to be) alone.

    Some parents werent "hip" when the were small soo these things slipped up - mi parents are damn-nerds loool. still luv 'em tho

    Its o.k bae.
    Just keeep ur nails on FLEEK boo!!

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago

    My parents didn't teach me self care either. Growing up I only showered twice a week, brushed my teeth once a day, had brittle dandruff ridden hair, never moisturized my skin, I never exercised, and I didn't get enough nutrients due to not having enough to eat and when they did get food it was all over processed cheap food that was easy to get with food stamps. When I was 18 and got a job I was able to take care of myself.(There was a short time after I was 20 where I became 200 pounds due to buying too much good food and not keeping my mouth closed). I'm 26, weigh 123 lbs, and people tell me I look 16-21 years old. You're NOT going to look like a prune when you're 25. You caught your bad habits early so it's not going to do anything like that to you. If you were much older, you'd have to worry.

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    • snarkygirl
      8 years ago

      This person is proof that you can do it!^

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        8 years ago

        But I don't want to be proof! Can I be the hat on your head instead? I'll be a good hat and I'll block the sun's harmful rays, I promise!
        :)

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        • snarkygirl
          8 years ago

          :) I look awful in hats but you look good in them

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          • Cuntsiclestick
            8 years ago

            Thankies.
            Everyone looks good in hats, so don't say you don't.
            :)

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    There's no point worrying about when you'll get wrinkles because you have no control over that: just eat healthily & look after yourself. Surely you saw TV & magazine ads about these thinss?

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