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My mom she likes to point out things about the way I look, but the way she says it all makes me feel like crap. I want her to stop, but if I say any thing about it she goes off on me & says that I should feel good about the way I look. Hard to do when she makes me feel like crap
start ripping at her wen she complains say exactly what she says to you :D
My mother was the same way with me. I have a high metabolism and she used to call me anorexic all the time and smiled about it like it was funny.... She only stopped when I told her that I hated the way she spoke to me and gave her an ultimatum.. If she did t stop I was going to move out. It is harsh but it had to be done and since then she has been good and boosts my confidence now I stead of tearing it down
Honestly my mom does that too and when I tell her she gets mad and yells so now I just tell her well you only focus on bad things
This happened to me too.
She would some days if she got angry call me all sorts of nasty things, make fun of a skin condition I have (I've had boiling oil accidentally splashed on my face in my early teens and I have bad skin and scars all over from it) and try to rip and throw out my clothes. I have discovered designer items that I had saved for months to buy stuffed into the trashcan and stomped on.
When I first told her I was asexual at 15, she made a joke of it and laughed in my face.
If this is the kind of thing that happens to you, I'm convinced that it is perfectly normal for teenagers and not to worry.
Can you give an example of what she might say? Is she pointing out things about your clothing, shoes, hair style, make-up? Or is she saying things about your actual physical appearance...your face, body, skin, teeth...?
Shes probably just jelous. shave her eye-brows off and make fun of her. lol
Hand her a mirror so she can take a good hard look at herself and leave you alone.
This might sound strange to you but a lot of moms are jealous of their kids. You have the looks and opportunities that the moms wish they had.
Shrug it off and enjoy yourself without her approval.
In some places it might be more normal than others but regardless I believe everyone should be able to wear/not wear what they want (to an extent)
Most of my relatives do that to me, because I'm androgynous. The worst part is when they repeatedly accuse me of being gay.
It's not right what she is doing. I've grown to view it as emotional/verbal abuse. Put the woman back her place or kindly try to talk this out with her. Good Luck:)
well moms usually lie about your looks so you can feel better about yourself.
Your mother is a realist, usually realists are harsh but they are right, as long as she points out the defects that you can actually "repair", she is not actually saying it with bad intention, if she does make fun of your genetically defects, it's her fault and you should point that out that it comes from her.
nah, I don't think shes a realist,
I think shes a jelous old nanny goat who can't controll her self form depricating her own daughter.
I observe this behavior between the different generations of women in my family.
The real issue is that you are moving into your most physically attractive years and she is moving out of them.
you are taking the role she once had and she's trying to hold onto it.
men do the same thing over verility.
Just see it for what it is and try to have empathy.